is this normal?

[Paheli00]

Re: is this normal?

@funky_nails

This guy
-does not like to go out for dinner to places where they serve either alcohol or haram food… Even if he has the possibility to just order something veggie…
-seems quite anti-indians which a lot of pakistani’s can be but which im totally not.
-he likes to stay in and doesnt see much point in certain activities, such as bowling or d cinema..

he allways says that ur opinion and he respects mine… but doesnt thsi mean we wont be able to do some things together??

It’s easy for him to “respect” your opinion now since you two aren’t married. With this particular guy, I see 2 things having the potential to become a huge issue in the future..

1. The “anti-Indian” thing…since you yourself do not discriminate against a certain race (in this case Indians)…what about your kids? Would you be ok with your having a father who’s racist towards Indians? What will you do when he makes anti-Indian comments in front of your kids?

2. The restaurant thing becomes a major issue after marriage b/c you two wil get invited as a couple out to places…by family, friends, co-workers. So with a guy like this, UNLESS he changes (and there is no guarantee he will)…you’ll either have to go alone or not go at all. What about kids? Would this guy be ok with you taking kids to restaurants that he wouldn’t go to?

When choosing a life partner, IMO not only do you have to consider how “issues” will effect you in the future…when there are things you and the guy disagree on…you must also consider how those differences will effect the kids.