Is this Normal?

[diwana]

Re: Is this Normal?

@diamond321

Neha …I will link your other thread with this one…did something bad happened to this guy when he was a kid ? abuse or a major loss …anything that was painful emotionally ? he sounds insecure with low self esteem. I can tell you that he is saying sorry right now shaadi kay baad sorry bhi nahi bolay ga.

There comes psychoanalysis. I mean come on, get real!

By this, all people men and women should get psych eval for showing anger.

[_RestLess]

Re: Is this Normal?

Nisha, such extreme cases where there is no hope for improvement are few and far between, I have observed.

Men and women, both have faults, shortcomings. Man's flaws usually revolve around aggression, and woman's flaws usually revolve around emotions. It has a lot to do with testosterone and estrogen, imo.

Just pick a random man or woman from anywhere in the world, and you'll notice this pattern. It's not limited to desi men or desi women.

Humans are the only one in animal kingdom, who are given the gift of self-control. And humans have the excellent capability to constantly adapt and change, if they have the will.

[Nisha25]

Re: Is this Normal?

^ Listen carefully when he is angry.

Find out why he is angry. If he is wrong, then mention it calmly or wait for a better time.

if a fiancee/wife was to constantly swear and shout out insults about a fiance's/husband's family will it be ok? if the insults are repeated every couple of times, there has to be a point at which enough is enough or do we keep our ears open to hear something as difficult as insults aimed towards people that are close to us?

Nomica said that he would even say bye to his wife if she was to say something to his parents that was insulting or conflicting. there would be no ifs/ands/buts about it in the other thread. a girl would love her parents just as much

[NomiCA]

Re: Is this Normal?

Nomica said that he would even say bye to his wife if she was to say something to his parents that was insulting or conflicting. there would be no ifs/ands/buts about it in the other thread. a girl would love her parents just as much

I didn't say that........i said i would say good bye if she insisted i leave my parents....i think you didn't read my reply carefully......

@NomiCA

There are things that can't be compromised.....and one of them is me staying with my parents...my response was about 'staying' and not throwing her out if there are disagreements...which is something common...

[diwana]

Re: Is this Normal?

@Nisha25

if a fiancee/wife was to constantly swear and shout out insults about a fiance’s/husband’s family will it be ok? if the insults are repeated every couple of times, there has to be a point at which enough is enough or do we keep our ears open to hear something as difficult as insults aimed towards people that are close to us?

Nomica said that he would even say bye to his wife if she was to say something to his parents that was insulting or conflicting. there would be no ifs/ands/buts about it in the other thread. a girl would love her parents just as much

Didn’t I say if he apologizes, then don’t be a nag?

[Nisha25]

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Nomica sorry i misunderstood, i guess i was stuck on your first comment b4 you explained it but you obviously want your parents to stay no questions asked b/c you love them very very much, would you be able to handle insults towards them. yaar it's very painful to hear such things against loved ones when it might not be their fault.

whatever neha's issues are with her parents and her fiance, hopefully everything works out well and for the better and he stops this behavior

[NomiCA]

Re: Is this Normal?

Nomica sorry i misunderstood, i guess i was stuck on your first comment b4 you explained it but you obviously want your parents to stay no questions asked b/c you love them very very much, would you be able to handle insults towards them. yaar it's very painful to hear such things against loved ones when it might not be their fault.

whatever neha's issues are with her parents and her fiance, hopefully everything works out well and for the better and he stops this behavior

Yes.... and lets suppose.....she breaks the rishta.......what do you think is going to happen next?? Do you honestly believe all will be just a 'no problem'......?? breaking rishta is not so easy...it does get messy too..