Your fiance is angry and he says all the bad things to u about ur family like ur family is insensible bla bla and then after two days he realizes he did bad and says sorry…and this happens like after every 3-4 months..he does not know what he is saying when he is angry,he gets out of senses(may be)..is this normal?..and would u get along with this type of rishta?
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no its nt normal , u didnt shared the reason why , whts make him saying all ths , did ur family hav done somthg tht he didnt like somthg against his wishes ... ... ?
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He is a psycho and domestic abuser.Stay away from him
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He has anger management issues. Needs counseling and potentially a treatment.
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what do you think neha will people suggest you here?? i think you know the answer already..
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Neha did u tell ths to ur parents ?
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no my family didnt say anything wrong ,his family interpreted something negatively and told him and he got angry..
people do mistakes and then say sorry??doesnt he fall in that criteria??
would u get along with this type of rishta??what is the worst he could do?
yup..still i need some advice seriosuly:bummer:
yup i did..
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Neha google it Domestic violence. And my cousin had the same case she got engaged and guy was control freak it made her life hell until she was out of it. One more thing people kill and then say sorry its not right.
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no my family didnt say anything wrong ,his family interpreted something negatively and told him and he got angry..
and there is your answer. If he apologized for his behavior then he knows his right from his wrong, only that he is little reactive in nature, and that should not be the reason for you to finish this rishta.
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and there is your answer. If he apologized for his behavior then he knows his right from his wrong, only that he is little reactive in nature, and that should not be the reason for you to finish this rishta.
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And still she needs to think her another post
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and this happens like after every 3-4 months
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If I think of as if my daughter I will not let her communicate with this guy until he stop his anger or he will be gone TATA There is always a 2nd chance but if things happen every other month then its not right.
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neha ...app pehlay khud ka bataain ...kia app ki neture aysee hay k ...in batoon per tahammul say kam ley or bad main dil say is ko bhool jaain jub agla muafee mang lay ..
aysay couples main ik fareeq ka bohaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat bara dil ho.. tabhe gaaree chaltee hai
shaadi k baad yeh cheezain or zyada feel hoteen hain ..kay shytaan uncle bhi poore terah active hotay hain husband wife k larayee main
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Your fiance is angry and he says all the bad things to u about ur family like ur family is insensible bla bla and then after two days he realizes he did bad and says sorry...and this happens like after every 3-4 months..he does not know what he is saying when he is angry,he gets out of senses(may be)..is this normal?..and would u get along with this type of rishta?
Run away before it's too late!!!
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And still she needs to think her another post If** I think of as if my daughter I will not let her communicate with this guy** until he stop his anger or he will be gone TATA There is always a 2nd chance but if things happen every other month then its not right.
I totally understand your feelings UZ. I will be angry if my daughter is in such situation but if the guy is apologizing then he is realizing that he is wrong. That is a great quality. Regardless of the fact that he repeated it after 3-4 months, Neha has to figure out how sincere the apology was. Repeating of mistakes happen with everyone. sincerity is the key here.
shaadi k baad yeh cheezain or zyada feel hoteen hain ..kay shytaan uncle bhi poore terah active hotay hain husband wife k larayee main
PG, shadi ke baad husband ko apnay susral ko smajhnay ka aur moqa milta hai. Abhi neha ke mangetar ghalat fehmi kaa shikaar ho jaatai hain lekin shadi ke baad imkaan hai ke aisa nahi hogaa.
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And still she needs to think her another post If I think of as if my daughter I will not let her communicate with this guy until he stop his anger or he will be gone TATA There is always a 2nd chance but if things happen every other month then its not right.
I agree with you UZ , I wanted to say the same.
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If the anger is on the same kind of issues [your family related] then I have 2 questions:
- Are you parents perhap stepping over their boundaries repeatedly that he is getting ticked off but instead of handling it with grace, he gets upset?
- If no to the above, then issues like this can aggravate into bigger issues such as: I don't want you meeting your parents too much or I don't want them visiting us...etc.
You need to find out if he has anger control problems or if it's a particular problem that triggers that anger.
Also, TLK, if someone puts himself in a situation where every 3-4 months he is apologizing, be it with the most sincerity, then he obviously lacks respect for the other person's feelings and cannot control himself. Apology is no justification for consistent repetition of the same mistake. It becomes a habit.
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Yes this is NORMAL with lose temper people. Biggest thing is that he realize it and apologizes later on. Not many people have courage to say sorry. It should be YOUR decision if you can take this every 3-4 months or not. He may need anger management classes but thats should not be a reason to break the rishta.
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if the person is good for 3-4 months.....how can you negate all that goodness for a single quarterly event..for which he apologised too??
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After reading about the scenario and knowing neha is still not wanting to let go, it only makes me wonder if its really as bad as maybe how it is worded?!.
Neha, you are the best judge here. You know what you can handle and you should have a good talk with him on this subject and let him know your apprehensions.
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After reading about the scenario and knowing neha is still not wanting to let go, it only makes me wonder if its really as bad as maybe how it is worded?!.
Neha, you are the best judge here. You know what you can handle and you should have a good talk with him on this subject and let him know your apprehensions.
Very wise advise. Also get him enrolled in anger management classes.
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Not normal. He's either insecure or very jelous and generally not content with his own life.