Yes! its very normal. There is a spirit of positive, and spirit of negative (good and bad) in everything including humans. The world is running on this formula.
If you leave this person because of his negatives, you may pretty soon find yourself in a similar situation with a different person.
When two people get married, they accept each other with all the flaws and all the qualities. And then together they grow, and heal, and bring out the positive in each other.
Moreover, if you want to suppress negative and cultivate positive in your spouse or any person, you can try anything – force, reward, counter-attack, revenge, punishment. But take my word for this one .. The Only thing that has The power to bring about any change, it’s Love. This particular word is all over the place, so many people talk about it, yet it is so undiscovered.
Sun and air are two things that purify the earth each day, just like that love purifies and cleanse the soul. The beauty of true love is that it brings more joy to the person who is giving it than the person who is recieving it. I am not talking about passion here. Passion is, but another form of love.
You may ask me what is Love. I dont know if I can give you a very good defination, because I am Tifl-e-Maktab myself.
Love has many dimensions, many forms, many colors. It’s an ocean with many wonders. It’s the fuel required for living life. Love brings pure tranquility. It’s the Only source of sheer joy and serenity. It starts with selflessness, dont focus on the return. Just imagine, it’s one-way traffic. Though you Will get the return and it’ll be manyfold, but dont make it your motivation and intention.
when he does bad to you, take it convert it to good, and send it back his way.