Re: ---Is this how Husbands usually behave?
a man that is genuinely worried about his wife...would call once..maybe twice and would do it w/out giving the "guilt trip"....and why would he send his kid with her....is he/she gonna be a bodyguard or something? there is more 2 it..something that we dont know and perhaps the poster doesnt know either.
You are a mind reader......
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haha to quote something I just read...
Yeah but I'm trying to give our boys a little credit while you are completly robbing them :)
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nyah, i used the word too many, now 5% can be too many it deoends on one's perspective.
you however generalized that desi men dont know how to express themselves
Re: ---Is this how Husbands usually behave?
a man that is genuinely worried about his wife...would call once..maybe twice and would do it w/out giving the "guilt trip"....and why would he send his kid with her....is he/she gonna be a bodyguard or something? there is more 2 it..something that we dont know and perhaps the poster doesnt know either.
Okay, so what is everyone implying? that the wife did something that makes him suspect her?
fine, if she did something and he suspects her then still he is being a baby about ti by teh whole silent treatment and guilt trips rather than acting like a mature responsible person
the poster also wrote that her friend has been amrried for 10 years so even if we were to assume that the guy got married at 18, he is 28 now..and thus old nuff to act a little more mature
now, lets say there is no such thing as infidelity from her side, do you still think that his actions are right?
lets just ask the poster outright,
Ask99, u seem to be close to your pal, can you just rest this thing once and for all about there being 'something more' to it as people are implying. that would give a better idea to others.
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ok fine…bottom line…his actions are not right…khush 
im saying…there may or may not be a valid reason for his actions. but heck…ur right…maybe he is just be a jerk with issues.
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Okay, so what is everyone implying? that the wife did something that makes him suspect her?
fine, if she did something and he suspects her then still he is being a baby about ti by teh whole silent treatment and guilt trips rather than acting like a mature responsible person
the poster also wrote that her friend has been married for 10 years so even if we were to assume that the guy got married at 18, he is 28 now..and thus old nuff to act a little more mature
now, lets say there is no such thing as infidelity from her side, do you still think that his actions are right?
lets just ask the poster outright,
Ask99, u seem to be close to your pal, can you just rest this thing once and for all about there being 'something more' to it as people are implying. that would give a better idea to others.
For that I know my friend for a long time ...we are best friends and I have known her before she got married..So the straight answer is NO...Why the heck would anyone think that she may be complaining now if that was the case...Wouldnt it be "EXPECTED" if she had cheated....duhhh!!..WOuldn't it be "SERVES YOU RIGHT!.".
I do get that usually that is the response that most people get..that "She doesnt know how to keep her Man HAPPY" or she must be Taarhing other dudes that is why he suspects her ....he must be right huh!! That is such an easier way out of all this isnt it...THE "CULTURAL " response......all in all its just too much hassle in her mind..very exhausting emotionally...but she knows she has to find a way)
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someone very near and dear to be once had an ignoramus husband, a conrol freak, a possessive, king of the castle idiot. first she was scared, then she felt trapped, then she confronted, then nothing changed and she decided if he can not change his habits then he has to live with them, she stopped acting in the manner that he expected her to, i.e. taking the kids, telling him where she was at all times,
I mean what was he going to do that he was not already doing? hit her? and end up in jail? call it quits on the marriage?
In the end the guy was a typical coward that such guys are and got in line.
Mind it she did nto do anything wrong, she was never rude, but she did not humour his insecurities, if he was giving a lecture she would ignore it, if he was getting on her case she would walk away. yeah he was teh type of guy who would walk behind her bytching throughthe house.
he is still not the type of guy I would marry my daughter to I suppose but he has grown up.
sadly I see too many desi guys who just have no idea how it is to be an equal partner in marriage.
That is exactly how she has been describing her situation to me. Feelings wise it started from being scared to feeling totally trapped to confrontations but nothing changed..now she does try to react in a different manner...but that usually means being on her guard 24/7 and it does get hard, really hard at times..the mind games get worse. but hopefully something comes out of it.
she had gone into depression for about 2 years thinking that there is something terribly wrong with her, and that she cannot make him happy. But her epiphany finally came and now she has picked up her pieces and moving on to make herself stronger for her kids and herself.She is blessed Mashallah that her family is totally with her and understand completely.
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I have a question regardng what is being tooo clingy ..I mean I know this couple and the wife says that whenever she has to go somewhere, the husband has too send one of their two kids along with her.Usually that is fine and she doesnt mind that...but apart from that if there is a situation where she has to go alone somewhere, he either keeps on calling asking her to come sooner then soon, and major guilt trip when she comes back. Is this all very normal in a relationship.What is going on as it really makes her feel bad, but there is practicality involved that sometimes it is just so much easier to run errands without having to haul 2 kids everywhere.Furthermore he gets to go/do his weekly recreational stuff without all this.Ofcourse she gives im guilt trip in retaliation too..but anyway what do you think and any solutions:)
It is not normal at all...
He is an insecure, selfish, jealous, controlling and manipulating freak...
Get her some help, by talking this to a 'shrink'.
The Dr. will identify her problems more accurate and will know how to proceed, afterward.
--this behavior is progressive and -in time-, it will turn ugly.
G'd Luck
Re: ---Is this how Husbands usually behave?
It is not normal at all...
He is an insecure, selfish, jealous, controlling and manipulating freak...
Get her some help, by talking this to a 'shrink'. The Dr. will identify her problems more accurate and will know how to proceed, afterward.
--this behavior is progressive and -in time-, it will turn ugly.
G'd Luck
As to my knowledge, they had tried going to the therapists 2 times but stopped midway.