Re: Is this friendship illegal
I am just confused as to whether she sees me as a friend or a substitute person she can ask advice to. Ive not seen her child and im not a paediatrician so how can i give her the advice she wants. Neither do I have children.* Maybe* i need to show her the motherhood threads here and hope she doesnt see this thread. She likes my reassurance when she updates me on her visits to the doctor. I asked her to see me as a sister and not be formal and say “good morning doc.”
Anyone who i feel a connection for and who reciprocates will get treated same way. I do feel more of a connection with Pakistanis maybe because of the friends ive had. She reminded me of an online Pakistani friend who wore dupatta. I told her that and she said its good that i met her then. If a white woman or an Indian lady had similar connection i would treat her the same.
She said she was also as interested to make an Indian friend and had always mentioned to her dad she wanted to visit India once more than other countries. But her mum didnt want her to go far from her.I said i was the same when it comes to Pak. Her dad was in Pak airforce and had many Indian friends. He had been a few times and encouraged her.* She said she had indian neighbours who she wanted to invite for dinner. I dont know if she said all this to make me feel good but it was heart touching.
*I told her i dont know if we would get to meet again but i was happy to meet her for a few min. I finished work at 10:30 and we talked for 3 hours. I asked her if she wanted me to go as its late but she was happy to talk and she would tell her father and husband she had made a new friend. I said " this is it. I guess we wont get to meet after today. But im happy i met you." Then she gave me her number.
If i ever met a white or indian person who was as excited to make an indian friend or were ok with me helping them i would do that as well. But for them im just another brown face in a hospital with 80% desis. Ive given some indian pts advice on ielts english exams. But its the first time ive had a phone based friendship. In the beginning i just wanted to make her feel comfortable in an unfamiliar environment. I told her i had a few online pakistani friends and i get really attached. Friendship means a lot to me and l
I do have Pakistani friends but they are like me. We have to google meaning of urdu words but now i can just message her.* She helps translate words for me and is happy to help.
I live 40 min away from her and my hospital is 10 min from her house.
Ive not visited her since the 1st time. We talk on whatsapp. So no restraining order needed :). I just want her to achieve all her dreams and wishes like she wants to be a chartered accountant. I am happy for her to make new friends and i emailed a few pakistani australian fb pages and emailed a pak aussie paper to find her some pakistani friends. No responses yet. The Pak paper said people are hesitant with newcomers because times are difficult. He said he knew a girl from her city and will contact her. Im still waiting.
Probably appropriate is a better than illegal. Like i want her to see me more as a friend and sister then a doctor.* I want her to talk more other things with me like her interests and her city in pakistan then health stuff.
She sent me some interesting links.
Maybe some physicians are arrogant but depends on the culture. In Australia most people are down to earth. I am a new doc so no reason to be arrogant. I just think if she was a family friend and in a new place id want her to find help and support.
What does fitoor mean. Aap se bhi thodi urdu seekh leti hoon 