is this fair on me or am i being unfair?

Lifestyle Relationships
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^ I was actually referring to Mabrook calling her an idiot. Which is a bit out of line

ur right though :k:

aaahhh a zit
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nadz it seems you love your fiance which is why you are now defending him as soon as everyone started criticising him......that's good, but you do need to try and be calm about things, and believe me married life throws a lot at you....i am married to a cousin and what i wear and whether or not i cook for hubby are the least of my worries...i'm worried that these small things are getting to you, how will you cope when the going gets tough...you 2 need to be strong in yourself as there are al lot of forces outside a marriage which will be trying their best to make your lives miserable.

saying that don't be put off marriage..its not all doom and gloom

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After reading all posts. I knew that he is just a good guy and not only loves you but also loves your mom too that is why he asked you to make breakfast for him to ease your mom. He is such a great person.

From your only 2 threads I found that you don't want to do anything what is good for you but he is asking to do that and not realizing he is asking you to do good things for yourself, him and your mom.

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and it didn't occur to our bad-guy-turned-good-guy/angel to move his butt and pour some cereal? You know, what with his all encompassing concern?

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If he is asking for her moms help then I would say he is a great man but if he is just asking before marriage then I would say why is he asking when he is not her husband yet.

She has to enjoy her life before marriage otherwise after marriage she has to do it all her life. So I'll say he is not husband yet so he can't force or even ask for his breakfast. If she herself due to her love does that then it's upto her.

I would suggest enjoy you life before marriage after marriage you won't gona have that privilage that mom is going to take care of you and your husband.

I love the idea of X2 demanding wifey's right.

If your mom is ok to give him breakfast then you enjoy your life before marriage you won't ever get that SINDRELLA life ever again.

History Mystery- Part 3
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I would say you yourself help your mom and do chores for her if she is sick.

Yes he can have cereal and milk himself. No problem with that.

Guys vs Gurlz
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Just tell him let me enjoy this life now. I ain't gona have this life again in my life after marriage. Very simple to say and solve problem. and assure him by saying that Insha Allah I will take care of your breakfast too after marriage. Don't ask me to become your wife before marriage.

History Mystery- Part 3
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I totally think this guy is very chalaak, and I doubt highly that he will 'live' in Pakistan after marriage. He is living rent free in the UK, getting his meals made for him...cushy cushy...that's not hard work...if he was so highly educated and top dog he would run along to his daddy, be a man and get a proper job and marry you asap....what's he doing here? its beyond me...he is just exaggerating his lifestyle back in Pak...in reality, you are his golden ticket to a good future. Oh and a british passport..

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i didn’t actually called her an idiot.it was her that called her fiance idiot at times in several posts n i said if hes gonna read these posts he’ll tell her whose an idiot.a person should respect their prospect partner even if they don’t agree with them.period.
yes immature i called her n that she is.also too young for marriage is not by biological age but level of maturity.
marriage is a big step for any person.being overwhelmed is ok but this seems more than that.wrong attitudes can easily create probs in relationships.but its her life she can do watever she choses.

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I agree with the last paragraph.

Timepass - March 2013
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WOW ARENT I POPULAR.....

OK well its not his fault he does his own thing, its my mother who wont LET HIM MAKE HIS OWN BREAKFAST...she runs around him like a mother hen, which infuriates me even more but oh hell....

and if i was finding adjusting to life after marriage i wouldnt be on this forum. many things trouble people, and in our cultre we are not allowed to marry whenever the hell we like. its more of a certain age you reach and thats it you gotta go...and im in no hurry to marry, its my age im 23,,,,,and im very independant, my parents are cool and liberal...not too liberal but enough to make me what i am today. and NOOONE should come to me after 23 years and say hey change this and do that etc...I DO RESPECT HIM AND THATS WHY I HAVENT SAID THIS TO HIS FACE, AND HAVE COME ON A ANONYMOUS FORUM TO MOAN...SO WHAT? DO YOU KNOW HIM? DO YOU KNOW ME? i hardly think this counts....and for those who think im too immature..i must be, if im on here asking for advice...damn what ws i thinking?

Timepass - March 2013
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Nadz sweety i dunno u or him its only the way u portray urself from ur posts.u remind me of the kid that cried wolf everytime n when everyone gathered he used to say"oh no it wasn't a wolf afterall"

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Before or after marriage a man/woman should NOT hear me people should NOT demand their spouses for breakfast lunches. Allah gave us all hands and we should use em! He also gave something called a brain wouldn't hurt if we used that once in a while also.

So nadz, why can't he do it himself?

Goddd in my case its my parents. I come back from work and they ask me to give my husband dinner when hes been home all day (at his place).