Re: is this fair on me or am i being unfair?
^ adding to that. It takes time for anyone to adjust to a marriage to a new relationship. Nothing to do with what background you have.
Add to that, our desi duties or whatever you may call them, it can get all a bit confusing.
I grew up in OZ and I knew a lot about our culture.. only after marriage i found what was relevant and what was not.
She's not too young for marriage or is childish. These are concerns a lot of people have, especually if you have lived a very independant life.
Sure you shouldnt discuss every problem and every problem is not really a problem. But oh well... we live and learn and she will too.
All we can do is, be positive and maybe tell her how we dealt with things. Or bad we dealt and how we could have dealt with them better.. i dunno. She's seeking advice, not badmouthing