Re: is this fair on me or am i being unfair?
^ The idea of moving to Pakistan makes me uneasy as well....because it's going to be challenging to settle down in a different environment and adjust to a guy whose view points mirror that of conservative desi culture in Pakistan. So, I agree with Mabrook.....you've got to work on communicating calmly with each other effectively NOW...to prepare yourself for what's ahead.
You're a smart girl and you can discuss issues in a broad and diplomatic way. I don't understand something Nadz. You know that there might be days when something will come up (sickness, emergencies, etc) where a wife might not be able to make breakfast for her husband.....why didn't you communicate this with him? If you present this angle in a nice way....he might even realize that his expectation of you ALWAYS making breakfast is not reasonable. Why didn't you tell him nicely that, "Look, my mom is like your mom and if she wants to pamper you by making breakfast, sit back, relax and enjoy it." That's a more positive way of dealing with the issue.
When you guys say things like, "Oh but I've already compromised by letting you get away with this" OR "But I'm working in England for you".........it just feels like you guys are keeping score. And that's not healthy. Can you imagine if our parents and friends always kept score.
** Mabrook**...I like your current picture under your nick better than the old one :)