See this is the thing that I always think about.
Call it being an ABCD but I have never agreed with that idea that a newlywed marriage should have kids right away to “solidify” the relationship. While I understand that reason (that in normal circumstances, a man who loves hiw wife will love her more after she has a child), getting pregnant so soon without even knowing if your relationship is a “normaL” one or not…it seems like such a gigantic risk.