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personally i would tell the man to look after his own wife. what kind of husband takes a flight and expects his wife to go by car? lol.
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LOL…that’s the most craziest thing I have ever heard. desis 
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This guy is either insane or cheap beyond belief.
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I find this so hard to believe that I think there's more to this story than meets the eye...from the other husband's side.
He sounds like he doesn't really want to spend time with his wife. What he doesn't know is he's making it reeeeeeeeally obvious.
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The "other guy's" wife must have felt uncomfortable with his suggestion....which is why she told you that she prefers to stay with some friends she has in the area. LOL......what a paindoo.
But, Saima, what I don't understand is why your husband hasn't given this "other guy" a more direct response? When your husband says "Oh yaar...why don't you just cancel your reservation at the expensive hotel and find a regular one?"...............he's making it sound like a suggestion/question..........and this gives the "other guy" plenty of room to refuse that suggestion/answer your husband's question in a "No."
What your husband needs to do is word things in a statement. He should say something along the lines of...."I'm bringing my wife with me so I can enjoy her company....just the two of us as a couple. That said...separate rooms as opposed to a double queen arrangement provides greater privacy. I'm sure that you both as a couple would want your own privacy as well. The arragnement you've suggested would interfere with that. However, the four of us can meet up together for either lunch or dinner."
^Word it as a statement so that the paindu doesn't have room to impose his unreasonable conditions upon you.
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I find this so hard to believe that I think there's more to this story than meets the eye...from the other husband's side.
He sounds like he doesn't really want to spend time with his wife. What he doesn't know is he's making it reeeeeeeeally obvious.
Yeah, I wondered the same thing....unless he's like this really big kid who just can't get over the thought of spending time in a luxurious hotel or he wants to stay in close proximity with other coworkers that he believes could really help him get ahead in the workplace, maybe? I agree....it is odd and suspicious.
Saima....do you and your husband know this guy and his wife well? If so....how are the interactions between them?
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Which American company asks you to share a room ??? Please give us the name , so we should never apply there .
I agree, how could some one even suggest to share a room on a sponsored conference. Never even heard of it.
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This guy is either insane or cheap beyond belief.
Or gay.
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First off, my head nearly exploded from the multiple references to husband and other husband
Secondly, that is totally messed up.
Thirdly, they may be wife-swappers - beware!
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Which American company asks you to share a room ??? Please give us the name , so we should never apply there .
A girl I know though a friend of mine actually said this happens in her company. She's a copywriter for some small company and while talking about travelling...she mentioned how she has heard that her "company" asks the guys that travel to share a room to save on the expense. I would think this would ever happen in a medium-large sized reputable company......but I can see this happening at small, 1-person-owned company.
I doubt the OP will share the actual name....but I'm curious to know how big the company is (approx. how many employees).
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If she isnt a buddy of mine, I'd be direct & would let her know I am not comfortable with the scenario. There is the option of you both getting a separate room so why not.
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Agreed with everyone above - you are NOT a prude!
Also, I think it's very nice of you to think it's okay to drive his wife...I personally would be like...NO. A five hour road trip is not short...and I would want to enjoy the privacy of a nice drive with my husband alone, without a third wheel sitting in the backseat. The other guy is an a-hole for wanting to fly himself and have his wife come by car with another couple. Tell him to man up and deal with his own situation, you guys are not their babysitters.
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tell them your hubby is used to sleeping in the nude, and sometimes sleepwalks....
Or tell them you like to watch porn together :D
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Or gay.
This occurred to me, too. The "co-worker" he's going to share a room with is actually his bedmate. There's no other explanation for dumping your wife like this on another couple. You can't be a heterosexual male and not see the absurdity of trying to convince another man to keep your *wife in *his room.
I'd feel sorry for the wife if this wasn't rather funny - a man is actually telling his wife to bunk with another couple because he's already got a male roomie? Come on, he has to be gay!
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Totally weird and the other husband is one freaky weird person!!
He's totally unreasonable and selfish! What a freak!!
If I was in a hotel room with my husband, we would be getting up to (halal married) things and I wouldn't want some third wheel getting in the way of that! How can the other guy not see that?!!
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sorry for being MIA, my husband and I were out of town over the weekend.
So my husband talked to the other guy on Friday, and basically told him that we are not comfortable sharing a room with anyone, and we dont want to share a room with anyone, as we think its not appropriate. He agreed right away, but get this.....he said, my wife will stay with her friends! WOW!!!! he still wont take the cheaper hotel!!!
Thanks for all the advice and help! I knew I could count on you guys!
Now.....who lives in Chicago? How cold does it get in mid-October?
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^So seems like he just didn’t want to take his wife. 
Chicago’s weather is as unpredictable as the words coming out of my mouth. 
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lol @ making your wife sleep with other couple just to live in 'expensive' hotel. I am sure he will bag soap, small towels, tissue box and coffee cups as souvenirs while checking out
to OP - any room available beside the room you guys have booked? I'd pay any amount to witness this reality show :)
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^ LOL :D
The guy is such a moron! Not taking her on the trip at all is better than dumping her at friends! Can't believe he suggested she stay with you lol. How selfish!
I would't be too pleased if my hubby told me he's going to be flying and staying at a 5* hotel and suggested I make my own way there and stay with another couple!
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A married man prefers sleeping in company of male colleague instead of sleeping with his wife in same city, without any financial issue.
You are not thinking what I am thinking.
No, Desi Married men are not usually gay. At most they can be Bi-sexual.
This man might be Sheikh Saab who has never seen a lavish hotel from inside. His imagination might be going towards sin city.