My husband and I are close friends with another Pakistani couple. The husband works with my husband in the same department. In a few weeks there is a conference in another city that the other husband already knew he was being sent to. At that time, my husband was not going to the conference. At first, the other husband was thinking of taking his wife, but then decided that he wanted to stay at the expensive hotel the company is offering them (they have to share a room there with someone else from the department). So his wife was not going, and he is flying there.
Just 2 days ago, my husbands manager told him that he wanted him to go as well. But since it is quite last minute, they cant book him a room at the hotel everyone else is staying at (it is a national conference - so all the rooms are booked). They gave him a budget and told him to book his own hotel, and all expenses will be paid by the company. So he asked me to look around and find something within the budget. And my husband wants me to go with him, so he is not flying, we will be driving there together. Yesterday, my husband told this to the other husband. The other husband then called his wife and told her. Now she wants to go as well. Her husband for some reason is not willing to cancel his booking at the expensive hotel and refund his flight, so that he can drive there with his wife, and get a room at a less expensive hotel. He is telling my husband, that since he (the other husband) has to share a room with someone else from the department at the expensive hotel, me and my husband should get a double queen room at our hotel and he wants his wife to stay with us in OUR hotel room. I think this is totally inappropriate! I would NEVER stay in the same hotel room as this girl and her husband, and my husband would NEVER ask his friend to do that. He also wants her to drive with us (5 hour drive), which is fine, I dont mind that, but I think the hotel room thing is not cool.
Yesterday, the wife called me and told me this is what her husband is suggesting (I was totally shocked and didnt know what to say), but she continued talking and said if she does come, she wants to stay with her friends (she has friends in that city). But she said her husband keeps pushing her to stay with us. I have a fear that she will give in to him if he keeps pushing.
My husband then said to me “do you think he is going to stay in his own hotel room with the guy from work? If his wife is staying with us, he is just going to come and stay in our room as well.” I think this is totally wrong, and my husband doesnt think its right either. He keeps telling this guy that he should cancel his booking at the expensive hotel and take the option to choose another hotel (which other people in the department are doing who want to take their spouses). No matter which option he takes, the company is paying for it, so I dont get it. But this guy is quite selfish and only thinks of his own comfort, and he wants to fly so he doesnt have to drive all that way, and he wants to stay at the expensive 5 star hotel, instead of the average 3 star.
Am I being a prude? Is this normal behaviour? Do people really do this???
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This ought to work for a desi married guy. But he being moron , can say , no problem I will blindfold my wife before your husband goes to sleep.