I agree with point 3. however it wasnt the MIL who said tumhe to kuch nahi chaiye na,she already asked if i wanted something, thing is, i now dont know of they wouldve sent something anyway or not since ive already asked. in a way i shouldnt have asked, just to see if they sent something. they usually do,even when i was not married, i think she used to sent ek suit whoever came for me and mum and sometimes sisters. obv now they may have also sent it anyway. it was the SIL who said tumhe to kcuh nahi chaiye, maybe to reconform as RV said what i said to her mum. dunno if they wouldve sent something anyway now. too late.