I read the threads and posts with interest and cant help but wonder if people worry about maintaining relationships with parents or siblings who may be miles away, raising good kids, how to help aging parents, or how to make a married life be great.
is our life and relationships really just about flirting, concerns about virginity, falling out of love, fiancee asking to do hanky panky.
Now I am not saying that these are not real concerns for many people, but am more than a little amused at the onslaught of these topics.
Is it about demographics of the forum, or about growing concerns, or something else?
is there more to life and relationships? of people, and of the forum?
just an open question to all participants. No judgements.
The relationships that we have with our parents and siblings and family are way too serious and boring for the audience of this particular forum.
It doesn't mean that folks don't have serious concerns but perhaps it's not as entertaining to hear about someone's parent going through stages of cancer versus an extramartial affair.
I don't believe that this forum is a true reflection of GS community's lives and relationships
lol, but that is true i was going to say something along the same lines, Khair you raise a good point Pir Sahab, i do agree with the fact that recently the same topics have come up over and over again and i do see it as being the trend. With that being said why not use this thread as the forum to discuss the issues suggested above by you :k:
Njgal I know what u mean, a while back there was a thread by a friend of mine who was concerned about his parents who were living in a different country moving to US with him because they really would not know anyone in Pakistan, and they cant be in the country they have spent much of their life in
I just wanted to gauge it, because I think we have some wonderful members and amazing mods, and some really good advisors who can give perspective and encouragement on the most difficult of topics.
As i saw the threads, I began to wonder if in my own bubble these issues are not something I am that exposed to or are they really so pervasive that the same themes keeps popping up.
kaun, it does not have to be in this thread, and people may not want to bring out real family issues and needs whether its privacy or keeping up appearances or whatever, its understandable, but just like we are discussing supposedly hypothetical issues like the ones pointed out, others are not seen.
But as I said, maybe its demographics, that these themes are the real issues a large number of posters are facing, I dont know.
Njgal I know what u mean, a while back there was a thread by a friend of mine who was concerned about his parents who were living in a different country moving to US with him because they really would not know anyone in Pakistan, and they cant be in the country they have spent much of their life in
I just wanted to gauge it, because I think we have some wonderful members and amazing mods, and some really good advisors who can give perspective and encouragement on the most difficult of topics.
As i saw the threads, I began to wonder if in my own bubble these issues are not something I am that exposed to or are they really so pervasive that the same themes keeps popping up.
kaun, it does not have to be in this thread, and people may not want to bring out real family issues and needs whether its privacy or keeping up appearances or whatever, its understandable, but just like we are discussing supposedly hypothetical issues like the ones pointed out, others are not seen.
But as I said, maybe its demographics, that these themes are the real issues a large number of posters are facing, I dont know.
To be honest Pir Sahab its also got to do with the age group of the posters on this forum, who do not view life from the same angle as some of us oldies, and some just come here to have fun and to get away from those discussed problems.
leopardess loll ... yeah hareem have fun and take a chill pill ... everyone comes here with their own two cents and u just gotta take everything with a grain of salt
sadzzz true, thats why I said, privacy concerns may be a driving factor. In a sense we are a rather interesting community, not quite all anonymous like some and not quite all real info like others.
however, many of the threads posted by ppl about ' a friend ' are really not about someone else, and when threads get posted about general societal trends, the person posting usually had some skin in the game there to be bothered about it.
anyways, I will practice what I preach and post something different.
what ive also found is, when some people post a genuine concern, different from the usual threads here, a lot of people dont know how to respond to that thread... u'll get a few replies and then the thread will just die after 10 or so posts..
Most GS users seem to be a college/high school crowd. Thts why. Beyond single young professionals...we don't have that many older adult users. But you folks are in a better position to figure out demographics on the forum if you have users enter birthdays or age when they sign up.
Plus you have a separate forum for parenting - so those questions go there.