Is this Abuse or not?

[hazaronkhwahishen]

Re: Is this Abuse or not?

@Sara516

I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you’ve thought this through. I know there may be much more to your married life than what you’ve shared here and are comfortable sharing… good luck.

Perhaps there is much more to their married life than what’s been shared here and that’s what the OP has decided on, without help from us.

Also, it’s not being dishonest if she hasn’t shared all of it, and you don’t know if they have undergone counselling or not. Not every person who goes for divorce makes the decision out of nowhere, 99% of the time, they have undergone counseling or other options.

You’re right, Sara. It’s not dishonesty. I suppose it’s just withholding certain details for reasons I am unaware of. I just tried to give her the best advice I could, given the details provided. I don’t want her to become a victim of physical abuse. Other than that, I’m purely speculating, but I would refrain from calling it a drama or show as some members have. I can’t help but defend her against slander, because I want to give her the benefit of the doubt in accordance to the information that she’s provided us with.

She’s an example of the kind of women I deal with quite often, and I see some real issues in regard to this in our community. Of course, it happens in all communities, but I see a certain backlash against the victim in our community that I find especially disturbing.

Now, I don’t know if she’s undergone any marriage counseling or not, but since I don’t know, I’m just going to throw it out there as a suggestion. I sincerely hope she’s taken the time to think this through, as many young girls these days, don’t understand that there’s help out there if they need it. Going to an imam or religious figure is fine, but there are also some great counselors that conduct their work on a more secular level. They can tailor their services to our needs and interests.

Anyway, I’m just trying to help out…