My husband and I got in a bad argument. I started to pack my stuff and he got angry and started to throw all my stuff from my closet while I was in front of it and was trying to forcefully move me out of the way so he could throw everything- I was yelling and trying push him away to stop him from taking my stuff and throwing it and he was trying to restrain me from pushing him (i.e. trying to push me out of his way also). In the process my hand got hurt. He has never hit me or hurt me aside from this. But he has a really really bad temper and throws things (not at me).
I was in front of it- I was yelling and trying push him away to stop him from taking my stuff and throwing it and he was trying to restrain me from pushing him. He has never hit me or hurt me aside from this.
Give the poor guy some space... and for the abuse issue... no it is not an abuse. Give it sometime and you'll get over it.
My husband and I got in a bad argument. I started to pack my stuff and he got angry and started to throw all my stuff from my closet while I was in front of it- I was yelling and trying push him away to stop him from taking my stuff and throwing it and he was trying to restrain me from pushing him (i.e. trying to push me out of his way also). In the process my hand got hurt. He has never hit me or hurt me aside from this.
Based on this, this is not physical abuse.
But he has a really really bad temper and throws things (not at me).
However, this makes me think there may be some issues regarding emotional abuse.
P.S. You also need to work on controlling your own emotions. In the middle of a argument, it's never a good idea to get physical with a man who has a "really, really bad temper".
No, it's not physical abuse. Paheli is right in saying that it's not wise to get into a physical struggle with someone who is already in a rage. I do find it odd if you're wondering if he physically abused you. You said that he has never hit you or thrown anything at you. Or maybe I am wrong and it's easy for a person to become confused because things happen so fast during the heat of a conflict that one may not sure if an action was intentional or accidental. Clarify it with him as opposed to making an accusation that he physically abused you. And if you're currently living with him but want to take a break from him....then do your packing when he's not around or maybe have another person around while you're packing, so your husband is less likely to act out.
You know that this is far from abuse, so why ask such a question? To have agreement or confirmation from others that it was indeed abuse?
And then what? You will have a strong argument to use against your husband?
Let's turn tables around. What if you were throwing things and your husband was pushing you out of the way.
In that case you would have come with a same story. Asking if its abuse because your husband was pushing you.
Don't try to look for ghosts when there arent any. because if you do look for them, you will eventually start seeing them.
Hope things get sorted out between you two.
P.s. i dont agree with your husband throwing things on the floor aswell. But don't use yhe abuse card.
^LOL, our gender has its perks in a man's world :p. Going by what the OP posted you can argue that there's emotional abuse. But I did find the question odd and I wondered the same thing as Le Pakistan.....that is she possibly looking for reasons to bolster her opinions/potential decision about her husband and marriage? Now it's possible that things happened so fast she's having doubts. None of us witnessed the conflict and we've only her post to go by. That said...the only other person who can clarify her doubts is her husband. I think she should sort it out with him before leveling the rather huge accusation of physical abuse.
anything that induces fear in home environment is abuse. I dont think your husband intended to hurt your hand, definitely not but throwing things around definitely induces fear.
However, this makes me think there may be some issues regarding emotional abuse.
P.S. You also need to work on controlling your own emotions. In the middle of a argument, it's never a good idea to get physical with a man who has a "really, really bad temper".
that's interesting- what makes you think there is emotional abuse?
No, it's not physical abuse. Paheli is right in saying that it's not wise to get into a physical struggle with someone who is already in a rage. I do find it odd if you're wondering if he physically abused you. You said that he has never hit you or thrown anything at you. Or maybe I am wrong and it's easy for a person to become confused because things happen so fast during the heat of a conflict that one may not sure if an action was intentional or accidental. Clarify it with him as opposed to making an accusation that he physically abused you. And if you're currently living with him but want to take a break from him....then do your packing when he's not around or maybe have another person around while you're packing, so your husband is less likely to act out.
this. i don't want to classify it as abuse, but it's hard to tell. i would think no matter what a man would never lay an angry finger on his wife. that's why i am confused.
when a man uses any kind of force against a woman hes abusive. when a woman uses same force against a man hes hormonal.
:/
don't know if you're just saying this generally, but he put his hands on me first- he was trying to move me out of the way to throw my stuff- then i tried to restrain him