Is this Abuse or not?

[Khumar]

Re: Is this Abuse or not?

@hazaronkhwahishen

Well, perhaps she wanted to stay at her maika for a few days. It’s the safest place in the world for her. I’d rather she stay there than some stupid motel/hotel or hang around outside. If it’s late, she should have packed her stuff and left immediately for her maika. If she were my daughter, I’d take her back in a heartbeat, reason with her, perhaps act as an arbitrator between them if possible, and then see that my daughter gets back home safely when she’s ready. We need to be there for our children, when clearly the environment has proven itself to be violent and completely unpredictable. I see more blame here put on the girl, than on the husband who decided to act like a nutcase. She simply packed a suitcase, and he acted like a mad man. We’re not really focusing on the situation and where they should go from here. We’re just focusing on what SHE potentially did wrong, given that she may have done what was best for her in her circumstances. It’s completely counter productive.

Once again, I am not saying that removing yourself from a volatile situation is a bad idea. And I am not saying that going to maika for a few days to cool off is a bad thing either. What I’m saying and what you aren’t understanding, is that she did not need to make a big show in this situation. What she couldn’t buy herself a new sleeping suit at her parents house? Or her parents wouldn’t have bought her new toothbrush in this situation? I highly doubt that would ever happen. I am not completely blaming the girl. Far from it. I am saying that she is also to blame, lest she considers herself the innocent in this situation.