is there any space for reconciliation here?

[ll_xx_ll]

Re: is there any space for reconciliation here?

@multinicked

thanks nomi and llxxll and everyone else for all your time. It is easy to get out of the guilt now that we didnt try enough to get things settled and after seeing real faces and moves from all of them, we are gradually moving towards thanking Allah for saving us from a life full of mess ! ‘khas kum,jahaan paak’ !

i don;t know how your brother is taking this…but I honestly think you should definitely thank Allah…Allah knows best…this happened for a good reason and it happend because it was good for your brother your family and also your bhabhi and her fmaily …i know this is somehting u probably dont want to read but I honestly believe whatever happens happens for the best for all those that are involved. Alhamdulillah!

@Wane

see llxxll, this trend does exist. why is it so hard to believe? fun is not fun as in fun but as in recklessness, as in don’t-care-attitude.

this thread is an example. this girl is on a train wreck, but has little to no remorse or foresight about what’s going on, and what might happen. she is doing it for the heck of it. can you pin-point a single plausible reason for the girl to act the way she is? one?

i am not short of examples but i dont have the energy to post everything here. details are too long and tiresome. one example is in my immediate family, one in extended, another one my close friend, and yet another my best friend’s brother.

the trends for all these cases were so similar: compromising husband doing minnat samajat of his wife to save the marriage but to no avail. and the same recklessness, lack of responsibility, and non-responsiveness on part of the girl.

call it whatever you will, a lot of divorces are happening on petty issues that could otherwise be resolved without much ado. and its nothing to be proud of on part of the women folk.

i get it uve seen divorces happening for such reasons around you but ur little world is just a small percentage of the whole world…thats the point im trying to make…i dont doubt that divorces may happen for petty issues im just saying that …only a small percentage of divorces happen for petty issues and out of those that do…most probably happen because one little thing became two little things became 6 little things became 100 little things, became a 1000 little things which equated to one big thing and one of the partners got frustrated because despite their continuously vocalizing their concerns the other partner was unable to work with them to solve their issues

and even if i look at this thread ive heard nothing from the bhabhi’s side maybe there is a huge issue here that we do not know of or maybe it was just recklessness but like i said before i dont believe a vast majority of the divorces happen due to petty issues i believe a vast majority happen because of big issues or numerous compounded small issues that didnt get resolved and became something big

why are you so hell bent on making it something that women have instigated? …you seem to be a woman hater to me honestly speaking and thats nothing to be proud of either, my friend.