is there any space for reconciliation here?

[Mirch]

Re: is there any space for reconciliation here?

@multinicked

reha: about istakhara, I already told we didnt even discuss it completely with mom. she told my husband to see if someone can help and my husband told her the interpretation of that friend but still we didnt take it seriously anyways. I obviously didnt say that ‘publish’ thing to her..i wrote i 'was like … ’ I didnt think loud I knew we were trying to calm things down so they didnt blow up everything and I didnt say anything that could add to the fire, despite the fact that her dad kept saying that he thinks my brother is immature and he thinks he was forced into this marriage and he is mentally unstable and my mom had psychological issues and what not. I didnt even tell my family what bakwaas he kept saying in his anger because my husband was out to talk to mom and bhai and I was sitting with them.

southie, like i told my brother doesnt talk about her or tell us how he is innocent. i never said he was one. I just told what we all witnessed over last couple of months. and I dont know what do you mean by hostile environment .. she has just herself to look after. my mom looks after all the cooking,cleaning,laundry for everyone including my brother’s and even for bhabi. bhabi wakes up at 7, makes her breakfast,(not even her husband’s), leaves for her work, comes back at 2, sleeps until 6 (my brother comes back at 6, have the lunch/whatever together (mom has her lunch at around 3 already) watches tv until 9 and irons her clothes and goes to bed. she has to go to her home every friday until monday morning, wednesdays is her night call at work so basically she is home monday,tuesday and thursday nights ! sundays, if she ever comes back on saturday from her home, she wakes up at 12 in the noon, they go out for lunch/dinner and watch tv for the rest of the time. I would really LOVE to live in such a ‘hostile’ environment all my life seriously ! she knows how to drive but she clearly told mom and brother that she will not go anywhere for anything because it is her husband’s duty to drive her for anything she wants. she drives to work when she is home at weekends but she decides to stay at work for hours until my brother has to go pick her up. do you see any sign of her acting like a member of family? still she has a long list of how she is not at peace here ?

http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/509212-in-need-of-good-advice-inlaws.html

if you read the first post here, can you still blame the dil being pushed to live in a hostile environment ? I am ofcourse not relating both of them. bhabi is not supporting anyone here Alhamdulillah. she told her dad is in hold of her salary for reasons they know. anyways that’s none of our business so no issues about that !

All I can say after reading all this that she is looking for a divorce and has someone else in her mind. If this not true then she has been treated as princess by her parents and expects the same at her husbands home and you guys are feeding her. stop making food for, ironing her clothes , driving her around and let her come back to her senses. In urdu we would say , uss ko uski auqat bata dow , then she would learn to live in peace with her husband and her family. I wanted to ask how old is she ?