Re: is there any space for reconciliation here?
Islam clearly states that either keep them (wives) in kindness or release them in kindness. I highly diagree with the OP who said that anyone could get married for 3 months take the gifts and then just leave. Once the girl is married then she is entitled to those gifts regardless of the marriage lasts a day or 10 years. No girl in her right mind would get married thinking its going to end in divorce..and then u guys are arguing about whether she deserves the gifts or not.
All those who contributed here..what concerns me is that u guys are supporting the original op but we dont even know the story from the other side. How can you all support divorce and rely on one person’s interpretation of the whole situation…I am afraid that I think there is a lot more to this story than what the op is letting on!! why is that is when someone first suggested divorce..she seemed so happy. That should not have been her first reaction after 3 months of marriage. Think she had already made up her mind about the bhabi and just wanted some justfication by advocating her own selective interpretation.
I am not denying the liability of what the girl has done at all. BUT the op attitude has not helped. And Allah knows best.
Grateful, I couldn’t have put it better myself.
That’s the reason why I made the suggestion to bring a couple of community elders to try and resolve the situation because everyone involved in it at the moment are going to be biased. I got slated for my advice, everyone here is calling for divorce and we don’t even know the full story.