Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?
Wait, I don't understand. Did you know him EXTREMELY well in the 6 years you knew him? Like, you guys were in a serious committed relationship during that time and you picked up NO red flags whatsoever? If that was the case, I find it extremely hard to believe. Unless he's a schizophrenic, it's not possible to hide your true colors for 6 years.
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Ya know to make long story short. The OP is right and of course everyone implied that it is different when ya started living with a person. And ya know having this perspective in mind..the compatiblity as well as similiarity in a relationship should be taken into account. But OP...ya will find someone insha'allah. Your life isn't over yet.
Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?
Ya need to quit w/ the ya's, Xtroneh.
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when my parents went to his house after everything had happende..his mum and dad threw my mum and dad out of the house, his dad swore and abused my mum nd also threatened them as hey walked out, both my parents are heart patients, so obviously now im living with them, im putting them at top prority..after wot they have hadto put up with its the least i can do for them
u keep mentioning taking care of your parents .. whatr do they have to do with ur sepaeration ? ..
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You find it hard to believe..how the hel do u think i feel?!
I mean do you seriously think i would have married the guy if I saw any of these signs..no way. well in regards to his mental state..well put this way..1 second he wud be fine..1 second he wud totally fly off the hande..i would be scared about coming home from work..i would be scared every time he would come home from work..
You guys can beleive wot you want but thatis is what my life has been...
Wait, I don't understand. Did you know him EXTREMELY well in the 6 years you knew him? Like, you guys were in a serious committed relationship during that time and you picked up NO red flags whatsoever? If that was the case, I find it extremely hard to believe. Unless he's a schizophrenic, it's not possible to hide your true colors for 6 years.
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Thankyou xx
Ya know to make long story short. The OP is right and of course everyone implied that it is different when ya started living with a person. And ya know having this perspective in mind..the compatiblity as well as similiarity in a relationship should be taken into account. But OP...ya will find someone insha'allah. Your life isn't over yet.
Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?
when my parents went to his house after everything had happende..his mum and dad threw my mum and dad out of the house, his dad swore and abused my mum nd also threatened them as hey walked out, both my parents are heart patients, so obviously now im living with them, im putting them at top prority..after wot they have hadto put up with its the least i can do for them
o my go d.. i m osrry .. did theeir tabiyat get worse after athat incident ? ..
Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?
Off course u have a future gal...but plz don think that only being married is a aim in life..its a part of life not life....focus in ur career,further studies,do something which inspires u,who knows marrige comes in ur way....but don sit and wait do something for urself..and as for teh guy leave him,ur lucky that u don hv kids involved in ur abusive relation otherwise ur kids might hv suffered wid u althrough....life has given u a second chance..
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:k:
Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?
one of the things i learned from Budha ho ga tera bap movie crap... " BEEP BEEP BEEP M F BEEP"
A married woman and a mother's reply:
Imagine... a 2 year old cute little kid sitting in the corner of a room where you and him were fighting, he was cursing, and both of you screaming at each other.
It was a blessing that a child was not in this marriage and you will do a huge wrong to go back and if that child is born, he/she will be a part of a broken home....
Its easier to imagine the future sometimes and make a decision of your present.
(my other side)
This is what you need to do
1 = kick that guy so hard on his ******* so he has severe problems having kids :D and walkout of his life with pride.
2=Take him to court, make sure cops know what happened and some jail time would be fabulous if you can somehow prove it.
3= Take a vacation, travel and enjoy your life.
4=come back home and let your parents know that you are doing Fabulous...he was nightmare and you just woke up
5= Get a new job, new life, work in a different state if possible
6= Go back to school if you haven't finished yet
Whatever you do, dont jump on to another relationship right away...heart & soul needs some healing time... let it heal...
(Hugz.. I which i could do that for real)
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^ Beshtesht post - awesome!
Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?
It is SAD that we've developed a society where you even feel the need to ask this question.
No, of COURSE, there is hope for you. Plenty of divorced people out there who quit horrible marriages - why should they be punished??
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yeah..especially my dads. i just cant get it out of my head that my parents have to put up with that all bcoz of me. and hey guess wot..on that day my so called 'husband' wasn there either, he had made himself scarce coz he knew wot they were goin to do.and i can never ever forgive him for that! x
o my go d.. i m osrry .. did theeir tabiyat get worse after athat incident ? ..
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Itotally agree with what your saying hun, i am actually now plucking up the courage to ring the solicitors and get the ball rolling, i really dont want him in my life anymore. and the worst thing is is that he is still making out to every1 that everything is normal and that im happy with him at home. yet he is goin on marriage websites posing that he isnt married and trying to find someone else to get married.
I have dcided im going to focus on whats important to me and my parents, I want to focus on my career which is that of a hair and makeup artist which got put on the backseat when i was with him because he didnt like me going anywhere, neither did his mum, yet because his sister did the course when i did (just because i sid i was going to do it), they used to make me order all her stuff, so her makeup and everything, pay for it, and if i ever got any queries about booking, they also eiher wanted me to take her with me or give the bookings to her. xx
Off course u have a future gal...but plz don think that only being married is a aim in life..its a part of life not life....focus in ur career,further studies,do something which inspires u,who knows marrige comes in ur way....but don sit and wait do something for urself..and as for teh guy leave him,ur lucky that u don hv kids involved in ur abusive relation otherwise ur kids might hv suffered wid u althrough....life has given u a second chance..
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thankyou for that post..it made me giggle lol. i will take what you have said on board..thankyou soo much x
one of the things i learned from Budha ho ga tera bap movie crap... " BEEP BEEP BEEP M F BEEP"
A married woman and a mother's reply:
Imagine... a 2 year old cute little kid sitting in the corner of a room where you and him were fighting, he was cursing, and both of you screaming at each other.
It was a blessing that a child was not in this marriage and you will do a huge wrong to go back and if that child is born, he/she will be a part of a broken home....
Its easier to imagine the future sometimes and make a decision of your present.
(my other side)
This is what you need to do 1 = kick that guy so hard on his ******* so he has severe problems having kids :D and walkout of his life with pride. 2=Take him to court, make sure cops know what happened and some jail time would be fabulous if you can somehow prove it. 3= Take a vacation, travel and enjoy your life. 4=come back home and let your parents know that you are doing Fabulous...he was nightmare and you just woke up 5= Get a new job, new life, work in a different state if possible 6= Go back to school if you haven't finished yet
Whatever you do, dont jump on to another relationship right away...heart & soul needs some healing time... let it heal...
(Hugz.. I which i could do that for real)
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i know..you know what our asian community is like..they really know how to make life difficult for you.. x
It is SAD that we've developed a society where you even feel the need to ask this question.
No, of COURSE, there is hope for you. Plenty of divorced people out there who quit horrible marriages - why should they be punished??
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(BIG HUGGGGGGGGGZ 2U 2) xxxxx
thankyou for that post..it made me giggle lol. i will take what you have said on board..thankyou soo much x
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You make your future...no one else but you. Much like your body is a product of what you put into it...so is your life.
If you want there to be hope...there WILL be hope. If you don't think there's hope...then there is none.
One thing I've learned through all of this is that we have much more control over our lives and circumstances than we think or assume.
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^ that is very astute. come to think of it, makes a lot of sense. You picture your future, and make it happen. You send out positive vibes, and people reciprocate in kind.
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but i mean, is there light at the end of the tunnel for a 25 year old divorced girl, i mean will i ever have my own family with a husband who will accept me with all my baggage?
Absolutely - think out of the desi box - you have a future..