Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

[firenze]

Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

I am happy too

@TLK

You look around Life1 and you see threads after threads of gender bashing. Men this and women that ..

but then you look at real people of GS .. I see the married people (that I know of) .. I look at guys like aahmed and X2 and ahmadjee and cheegum abd Decent and Mirch. Then I see married girls (especially the one with kids) like Muzna, Maroush, UZ, Sajal, Njgal, Masi, MiainVA and Niksik and they all seem so happy and content in their life.

(Niksik is the happiest of all for obvious reasons)

Sorry if I miss any names .. but when I look at the above mentioned people, I dont see that problem is as bog as we hype them to be.

I know that some of us are going through some troubled times but in general, I see happay happy familes aorund me.

What gives?

[fat_spartan]

Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

@diwana

Skipped several posts and few pages so pardon me for repeating something already said.

The main problem as I see here is not between men and women.

It is conflict of few boys and girls who have time and access to internet and they want to have their voice heard by someone else out there................. somewhere far far away.

There, I fixed it for you.

[TLK]

Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

@firenze

I am happy too

how about Bhabhi? Is she happy too?

[firenze]

Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

@TLK

how about Bhabhi? Is she happy too?

she is crying with happiness :@:

[blessed2006]

Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

@TLK

and you expect others to make you mithu?

nahi main ghair shaadi suda hoon.

[TLK]

Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

@firenze

she is crying with happiness

Oh yes, lets stick to this story.

@blessed2006

nahi main ghair shaadi suda hoon.

and what that has to do with being a mithu?

[fat_spartan]

Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

I'm not: A hijabi Non-College grad A stay-at-home (doesn't matter if I say I'll stay home for a few months - my inlaws would make sure I give up my job PERIOD - I've seen it happen before).

While I'll admit that for some reason hijabis (statistically) have an easier time getting rishtas. But I have also known some guys who prefer non-hijabis. None of these other points you mentioned have stopped anyone that I know of from getting married.

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Income lower than his
education lower than his

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Lower income and education than who? I don't think this is really an issue with anybody I know, and I do know of some couples where the wife earns more than the husband.

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dependent
baby-act

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I'm not even sure what a baby act is. I don't know anyone who is looking for someone who is dependent.

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size D boobs
perfect figure
hot model type face
great fashion sense

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Do you really think most girls who get married have all of that?

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Given my poor deconditioned state at the moment, I don't think I could last in bed for more than 60 seconds. I walk a flight of stairs and I am huffing puffing.

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How would he even know about this at the proposal stage?

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Socialite
Having family connections, or a dad that can get his sorry arse a job. (Memon culture - often the father in law of the boy will help him get a job, set him up with a business, etc - my dad ain't doing that).
A huge dowry (Sorry, my parents can't afford to get themselves a new washing machine)

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I don't know of anybody who depends/depended on his father in law for a job/business.

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A career girl willing to saccrifice her job just for him
willing to give up my dreams and ambitions all for him
willing to take the back seat in everything
willing to let his mom walk all over me because she has some inferiority complex and can't mind her own business
willing to deal with in-law drama

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There are men who want stay at home wives and there are also those who want working wives. I know of many women who are working, even some who started after they got married. Whatever your aspirations are, I'm (99%) sure there's someone who would support you in that.

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I mean, I'm sorry, I guess I would make for a difficult bride, and despite the fact that I'd probably make a kick arse wife and mom, I will be the last person to get a proposal becuase I just don't measure up to qualities that I don't value in the first place.

Oh well.
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Well, I hope something works out for you.

[blessed2006]

Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

@TLK

and what that has to do with being a mithu?

bewaqoof tumhare is comment pe kaha tha miyan mithu

“(Niksik is the happiest of all for obvious reasons)”