is that rite or wrong?

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salam all,Guys plz tell me if my husband spend maximum time chat with other girls ,is that normal or not.And what should a wife do in this situation.Ager her tarikay se samjhanay k bawajud wo aisa karay to phir Kia kiya jaye?

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chat online or on phone or real life?

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Do you mean he chats to them online? Or is it his friends/ work colleagues? Depends on who he talks to and at what time?

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you should start chat with him and cross all limits. after all guy on the other side is your husband. :@:

phir bhi na manay to :ASA:

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Well in realistic point of view this is not normal at all. Why is he seeking attention elsewhere if you are there for him. Yo..i suggest you and your husband need councelling. Or wait...give him hall pass.

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kiya baat hai, aaj life 1 main ziydah tar shohron kay khilaf thread open horahay hain, kisi ka shohar publicly mazak urata hai, kisi ka shohar outside marriage affair chalata hai aur kissi ka dosri larkion say chit chat. :@:

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En masoom larkyon ke zakhmon per marham laga raha hon. Naiki ka kam hai bhai..tum bhi ajao. Allah hamain char beviyan de ga insha'allah.

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ahmm ahmm. aik hi kafi hai filhal. :@:

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Is he chatting online with random girls without you being around? How do you know he's doing that? If you've discussed it and he still doesn't stop, phir Allah reham kerey behen. Aap ya toh doosrey mardon sey chat kerna shuru ker dein aur zor zor sey hansaa kerein jab woh room mein enter hon, and quicly minimize the window to arouse suspicion. Or if that doesn't work, then let's wait and see what others say.

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Wife should start chatting with guys online.

Aoo SunMun chat kareen...... a/s/l ?

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If he's chatting online...then make yourself a screenname and chat/flirt with him. Get him to meet you somewhere. And then take out your bailan and beat his butt when he arrives.

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^lol! Best advice in my opinion! :biggthumb:

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And the worst advice is to chat to strange men online, if that was genuine advice. Last thing you want to do is get talking to some pervy guy online only for your husband to assume the worst and things become awkward. Just talk to him about it directly and ask him “suniye jee :blush: why so fascinated with the girl on the chatroom with the picture of her priyanka chopra as her display pic?.. Dimaagh thikaanay nahin hai kya jee? :halo:” … Ok so maybe not in those words exactly, and minus the clenched teeth an all… But you get the gist!

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Since you have tried everything Give him a break go to your parents home if you can so that he could chat with them on 24x7 and let him realize it ain't worth it and it is not like real chat with real wife.
If he ends up hooking up with someone and doesn't care about you being away to your parent's home then he is not worth keeping anyway. If he is not interested in you and more interested in other women there is not much in this marriage worth saving.

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he chat online with girls.am always around him bt he dont care.yes i tried to chat with guys infront of him then he threatend me that he wil leave me.he doesnt like that.we have 2 kids ,i also tried to leave him alone for sometime but he is not agree on going to pakistan with kids coz he cant live without them.he said if i want to go pak without kids then u may go, how can i leave my kids if i want to go.now tell me wht to do.?

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I was only kidding about chatting with men online but looks like you've done that.

Sounds like he has a serious problem. Maybe you need to involve a third party. :)

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You should find out why he is chatting up other girls. Is there something he is not getting from you. You might be boring him or he is trying to taste outside flavor. You need to stop before it gets too late :)

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It sounds like he's an insensitive, inconsiderate jerk who neither respects for nor cares for your feelings. He has different rules for himself and different rules for you and he's not above threatening you with the loss of your children. I think you have two options - stop talking to him and make him realize what the loss of your companionship means to him OR involve an elder to mediate the issue.

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1.He has addiction problem. Even if he needs to quit he cannot. He needs professional help or danda of his own parents , elder brother or sister if they are willing to help him and you and their nieces and nephews.
2.Give him some kind of ultimatum which you should be willing to follow through if does not stop putting his needs and wants over his family's needs and wants.
3. If he is willing to leave you for chatting that might be a bluff and you got scared. You should have let him fulfill his bluff. Why do you want to be with a man who is not man enough to take care of his family's needs and wishes ? Who is willing to leave his family to satisfy his addiction ?
4. While he is chating sit beside him , or train your kids to distract him or sit beside him , if he loves them he needs to prove that he can quit this addiction for the sake of kids.

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are you serious?

just because you do edited doesnt mean i have to do too to prove the point