Is Thanksgiving Celebrated in Your Household?

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Re: Is Thanksgiving Celebrated in Your Household?

@redvelvet

If you’re asking me…no, not with a deliberation. My dad loves to cook on the weekends and anytime he has a break from work. We have done Turkey…maybe once or twice in the past…but generally on weekends/breaks it’s baked/grilled chicken or desi dishes. We’ve never done stuffing, mashed potatoes, casseroles, a typical Thanksgiving spread. On Thanskgiving day…even if nothing “special” is cooked, it’s not a big deal for us. We may spend the time in various ways and if it does involve a hearty meal…again it’s done because it’s a break…and not with a deliberate Thanksgiving purpose in mind. Since we don’t treat it like a tradition/practice…there aren’t any specific annual expectations. No…“hey how come there’s no turkey or stuffing or pies in the home…or how come we’re not inviting folks over or going or visiting others.” Because there’s a laxity in the attitude…it gives more flexibility in how we wanna spend that day because it’s seen more as a break.

No no…it wasn’t directed at anyone particularly…just happened to be right after your post.

We started out with the same idea RV…we had a break in the week and everyone was off so we just relaxed at home. Now, that most of us are married and living separately…its an excuse to get together and make our parents happy. The main idea is simply for our families to be together. I still don’t know how to cook a turkey…we do the traditional T-Day spread because its so damn good. We don’t carve the turkey, sit around the table, hold hands or bow our heads in prayer. Its like any dawat except…the menu is according to the season we’re in.

@khattichic

The point is not about a difference of opinion. The point is about minding your own business and not sitting in judgement of others. If I see a thread about Milad un Nabi or Shab e Barat or quran khatams, I stay out if it because I know my opinion is not in favor of these practices. I don’t jump in and start pointing out faults in others’ knowledge of deen.

You want to talk about intolerance? We “ABCDs” and I absolutely hate that moniker by the way, are constantly judged and looked down upon by our “own” people from the motherland. We can’t even breathe without being accused of selling out to the evil West or forgetting our roots or culture blah blah blah. The reason the claws came out in the Gobble Gobble thread is because the thread was ONLY for menu ideas and recipe sharing. AFayiz or anybody else could have easily gone to All Views and started a thread to voice her opinion and all would have been peachy keen. I’m stressing the fact that the bone of contention is not about the the difference of opinion, it’s about the lack of respect.

That is the difference between us and them.

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@AFayiz

Thanks a loy. Allah give you jaza e khair for putting all beautifully and understanding that I am not saying anyone kaafir, i wrote with good intention but… this become all thread some calling me stupid, some calling me someone who is telling that you are not good muslims, whereas nowhere i wrote this and its was their subconscious speaking about it. You last sentence supported my stance that nowhere i was judegemental but all others now targeting me. Just one thing i must put here, many of them are living in West for years n years but are Asians still as we Asians specially Pakistanis lack tolerance whereas its best practiced in west

I do apologize…I feel like my thread really put you on the spot and that was not my intention. I think what a lot of us are trying to say is that…Thanksgiving is simply time off. Its an excuse for my family to make it into a fun thing for us. How many times a year do we have a block of days off like that? My weekend is spent getting ready for the upcoming week. Laundry, grocery shopping, bills, cleaning up, etc etc etc. I squeeze in my friends during the week and quality time with my parents is our time grocery shopping. Life gets busy. So when a chance comes around to do something fun with your loved ones…yeah…we take it. We grab it and run with it. And we don’t consider it a bad thing…having dinner on Thanksgiving does not stop us from praying, fasting, etc.

This has nothing to do with religion. It has zero to do with our beliefs. It has NO impact on our kids spiritual health.