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Mama, they will mostlikely badmouth her, say she must be dating or have a boyfriend (the horror 
) and blame her parents for not marrying her off.
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i think they would be jealous that the gal have the oppportunity to exist by herself while they did not get that chance:( …
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I'm sorry :(
Well Mama, yeah parris n mehnaz r right... the'd talk crap but maybe coz they were jealous too..
but wats wrong with "living life" after you get married? You're tlaking as if marriage is death or something.. i know plenty of grlz who got nikkahed/married right out of HS and they're happy... they have fun with their friends and are doing well in school, its just they don't get caught up in the typical guy crap..
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Thank you Mamaof3 
Do you know the major aim of my life was to attain some recognition as a professional woman but these buddhhas at work cannot accept the fact that a female who is much more younger than them should achieve her aims at an age when they were busy struggling with life (I was always extremely ambitious for a girl). It’s broken my heart (in the professional environment). Two facts they cant digest:
- Im a famale who aims high and am a ‘danger’ for them.
- I am all this at an age when they had lots of other worries/interests to concentrate on achieving anything professionally.
They find it unacceptable. And it makes them insecure… so much that makes them do everything they can to be a hurdle in my success.
This has left me very frustrated with life and has forced me to think if I should change my path, my way of looking at life and change myself. If Im over ambitious and should not be.
Thanks for the wishes.
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Who knows? Maybe I’ll change too. Life is all about changing. But at this point, I know Im incapable of ‘marriage’.
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Thank God my parents are not like those typical parents who would listen to these stupid aunties. All they tell me is that you and your wishes are more important to us than anyone else but we are worried about 'people' and what they might say. But I think again most of my dad's and mom's family has understood that they cant change me no matter what they say. And cz there have not been very good experiences of their own sons/daughters who got married so they are not in a position to say anything about me. They're worried about their own children knowing that 'marriage' is not the ultimate achievement.
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shweet,
address batanaa zara apnaa…
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:) no no dont send me an invitation to your wedding i dont think ill be able to make it that far :(
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I didn't wanna get married...
Now I do...
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People often assume/say that one day a girl or guy will meet someone and change their mind about not wanting to get married. By saying this, are they saying that someday the person surely must get married because to stay single would be silly/unrealistic/unacceptable/wrong?
Why is staying single never an option? And why do people sometimes assume you are gay/lesbian if you say you dont want to get married? Why such labels?
If someone told you that you are perverted because you want to get married(i.e. have relations), would you find their statement to be ridiculous?
A young virgin girl is often the ideal in terms of beauty, innocense and virtue, yet when that girl gets older, and remains single(and often times still a virgin), it is no longer something virtuous. Why, when the beauty, innocense and virtue havent necessarily gone? Or does it, due to the chronological age?
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excellent point, i would not find it ridiculous:D
there is a time for everything, there is a time for virgin beauty to attract “rishtas”, and a time for wrinkle and wisdom to educate children and grandchildren…in tradtional societies women don’t have intellectual jobs…the only kind of jobs where one could be very usefull at old age, hence an old wrinkled single women is worth nothing cause she has no children…in Japan for example a 30year old unmarried woman is called “rotten cake”…cause the only use for young beauty is attracting a husband to make children for the future of the community
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The only thing wrong with not wanting to get married is that eventually u may really really not want to get married at all which makes things very difficult, cos u realise that u should but u really dont feel like it anymore.
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hehe… not in all my family but my phupo was all about this. Either talking of fixing some girl and guy together or looking for ways on how to seperate those having troublesome marriage. I tolerated for a while then I told my dad, “What the F*CK is that? Does she ever think of anything constructive other than marriages and divorces?” And I told all my family and my sister told me that when I came back here my dad used to recall all that and smile at how it used to piss me off. I know he didnt like all that crap either. So, I made him learn to say no listening to or taking part in such activities. My mom never did or took part in these things in the first place. She’s a different kind of mother 
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Do you think there is something wrong with them? If someone tells you they dont want to get married and they are done with schooling, do you assume they are doing things they shouldnt be?
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Nope, not at all because I was this person a couple of years ago. It took me a really long time to come around and accept that marriage is even a possibility for me. I am still in the process of accepting it (almost there) and it is a very tough journey but I am glad alhmadulillah that I have a loving partner who is supportive.
So the key for me was to change my thinking and start looking at the brighter side of marriage and boy has it been an inner struggle.
So no I don't think you are weird at all if you want to stay single or want to delay getting married until you feel comfortable starting that journey.