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So I see, you are a loner.. 
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I know my cousin doesnt want to get married because she hasnt found the right guy, a guy who lets who is HOT, RICH, and educated and also doesnt mind her staying out late with her guy friends, doesnt expect her to cook or have kids or clean the house. I am sure the material things she can find but I doubt theres any desi guys out there who are liberal enough to let their wives hang out at clubs with other men, no matter how rotten they are themselves.
And she has a boyfriend so it doesnt matter. I think thats another thing, alot of these people have boyfriend/girlfriends so they dont really care.
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Not have sexual contact ever? You have NEVER been attracted to a man?
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Maybe if she found an ABCD (which I think she would be looking over) as even religious ones donât like to marry a tainted maal! 
Is she some form of ABCD herself?
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I personally think ABCDs are actually better than some girls form muslim countries.
No, she was born in saudi arab :~) And shes very pretty herself.
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Blitzay, yeah I am. and a proud one 
Oyye Dummbie, what has âbeing attractedâ to do with actually going through the âsexual actâ?
Didnt I mention somewhere here that I feel more digital than human. I feel âsexâ is not a requirement (atleast for me). I mean having sex is a long way from just âbeing attractedâ to someone. Itâs not that you get attracted and perform the sexual act the next minute, day, month or a year, right?
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i think it is different to refuse marriage idea and not to marry because of lack of âoccasionââŚ
I donât wanna marry anyone else but a right guy, though iâm gonna have affairs with guys in btw, to âspend timeââŚthat would be unfair to the guys, and to the future hubby
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Oh yeah heard a lot about saudi girlzz..
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but it is the attraction not the act that defines who is homo or hetero, for example you can be married (forced marriage) but be homosexualâŚan opressed one!
so being asexual is not the same as abstinence! iâm abstienet because i think sex before marriage is not ok, but i am attrated towards men, thus i know iâm straight:)
if youâre attracted to that guy you talked about then you are not asexual!
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It is completely ok not to want children or to get married...until you find the "right one". THen you'll want these things. I always disliked children and saw myself as a single professional without kids until I met my soul-mate....then all I wanted was to make children with him. I've seen many Paki gals who were "married off" young and they feel cheated out of life experiences that they could have had. It makes them resentful and bitter. Better to go get your education, see a bit of the world, have the experience of "earning your own living". Yes, its tough to have your children a bit later like I did....I'm ALWAYS exhausted!!! lol!! But its a happy, content exhaustion. I prefer that over being young, energetic and resentful. Just take it slow, examine yourself and decide what you want out of life and GO FOR IT. Its YOUR life and like Cher said, this ISNT a dress rehearsal, its now or never. And listen....yes there can be troubles conceiving if you wait a bit longer, after age 35 especially. But the wonderful world of medical technology most times can resolve that issue. If I had to choose between getting "married off" at 21 without knowing the world and myself or having a taste of the world, feeling total independance and THEN going thru troubles with conception, well I think I did it the right way. IMHO.
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Oh yeah, paris, I did mention in that thread by TruckDriver that I dont think Im asexual precisely cz I do get attracted (atleast) to men. But that does not really mean Im too keen to have sex too. I mean to me, having sex is much much more complicated than just being attracted.
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This moment in time, I dont feel like Im gonna feel like that about someone. Maybe for a short time but thatâs not enough to have a full fledge married life and sustain it too. This is why I feel my marriage gonna be a failure cz I know thereâs so much required to make a human marriage successful⌠emotionally, physically, sexually, etc.
Cold, rigid, machine-like people cant do that.
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i personally dont care WHAT they do. but ill give u some of the opinions my family members have.
for girls most ladies in my family think that past a certain age a women starts to look older than a man so not only should she get married early but also marry an older man so the couple will look good together. honestly sometimes i feel marriage is all friggin about âlooking good togetherâ (in pics, in your wedding dress, looking innocent and pretty in wedding pics, the guys being financially stable (older ) so he can support a big wedding hehe). atleast in my family everything seems to revolve around weddings, weddings, weddingsâŚrishtas rishtas rishtasâŚfixing up one guy with one girlâŚgossiping about how they look etc etc.
i go to family parties and meet some community desi girls and all they talk about is âdo u have a fiancee?â "i want a harvard doctor as a hubbyâ âmy mommy says im gonna get married at 18 and i dont really care!â bla bla blaâŚ
i am 22 and i wanna get married when im 25-26 or if life is greatâŚeven 27-28..who knows. but i go to these parties and when i tell them i am 22 they go:eek: 22 and unmarried!!! omg!why?
i also feel ( i dunno i just feel) aunties let out a breath of relief when a girl gets marriedâŚlike she just stepped out of a life of possible sin and misery âŚto one of completenessâŚadd to that the crap about âhubbyâs ouse being your REAL houseâ
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o come on! i KNOW a certain jordanian can MELT u TNWBâŚ
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TNWB, not to worry. I was a computer nerd type, worked on trading floors in technology and was happy, found little kids to be gross and a pain-in-the-neck. And I saw myself being happy going along this path for the rest of my life. Till I met my love. I wish you this too. When its right, its right. And when you're ready, things will be very different. For now, just dont worry about it and follow the path that brings you happiness. Everything else will follow. INshallah!
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Hehe⌠he is good to look at but still my âmeltingâ point is either too high or does not exist.
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a bit off-topic....but I have a question abt these aunties. What would they say and think about a gal who earns lotsa money on wall street and is happy leading the single life? If they see all the money she earns and all the nice things she can buy, the nice life she can earn FOR HERSELF, would this make them be quiet? Or they'd still be unhappy about the gal being single?
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Right, but attraction has a big part in it. Personally i was like you too errmm like two years ago (before I met him ) I hated men, I never wanted to have sex, I felt like I could go my whole life without and I would marry a disabled man or someone really poor to help someone out. But its not like that at all! Now its a totally different story
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trust meâŚonly if the gal is buying them gifts now and then with that moolahâŚthey will shut upâŚotherwise its all criticism.