There are alot of smaller groups & individuals that are doing alot of charity but they may not be too organized or "known" which is also good because involvement of more people means more chances of corruption especially in a system like Pakistan. Heard alot of good things about "Al khidmat foundation" & some other groups. & there was a guy by the name of "Hafiz Saeed" running a charity organization working on a large scale helping out the needy all over Pakistan no matter hat the need. But india & friends put him on the "terrorists" list. That is what is done to any muslim doing good in the muslim world but especially in Pakistan. His name was dragged in various maligning campaigns I did not understand why. But the mystery was resolved after I came to know how he was quite vocal about Kashmir cause & doing alot of charity through his foundation the name of which I do not recall currently. That foundation was also shut down under false claims that it was making "terrorists". Oh the power of media exploitation & its' satanic owners.
But your impression of "charitable west" is so strong that you conveniently ignore the charity of the muslims world.
Speaking of "oppression", it is not limited to women alone but to all the weaker. However, the only two kinds of oppression highlighted on media are the minority's & the women.
I see that you emphasize alot on "feeding" the poor. While it is definitely encouraged in Islam, that is not the whole charity in Islam but one part of thousands of other good acts. There are such "feeding" to poor places every few miles in Pakistan. You have to have the eyes to see. The bigger issue in Pakistan is the people totally becoming reliant on those places instead of struggling to earn for themselves. There have always been organized "begging" mafias in Pakistan but recently with rising inflation, they have become bigger than ever & it seems like they have all gathered under one umbrella to beg together & share profits. I say this based on my observation after my trips to markets in the recent past. Personally, over the years in the past, I used to always help out anyone asking for help without caring whether they're asking out of need or just laziness to find work despite repeated reminders not only by casual observers who saw me helping them out but my relatives to not give them any cash & encourage them. But now, after hearing some lectures by dr. Israr Ahmed about how professional beggary must be discouraged, I have stopped giving out to those spreading hand especially the ones about whom I am sure from their way of asking & attitude that they're professionals, not real needy.
Few months ago, there was a fine looking, healthy guy standing outside a store where I went to purchase some important stuff. But he got me before I entered the store to tell me some very tragic story about his 5 sisters hungry at home of his neighbors & his father who, as per him, died just days ago & the owner of their rented house kicked them all out because they were not able to pay the rent. Because it was a short, quick market trip so I was not carrying alot of cash but gave him whatever was there in my bag. But he was not happy. He insisted I give him the rent amount. Since I was not able to at that time so I promised him I would if I see him next. Then I entered to store to get updates, info about the stuff I needed to purchase & apologize to him that I cannot purchase then & will return to do that because I gave away the cash to the guy with that tragic story. I told him that so he wont take me as someone who wasted his time without the intention to purchase. So that guy goes like, "You'll find too many guys with similar tragic stories. Do not pay them any attention. They have ripped alot of people in the market." He knew because he worked in that market. I was quite shocked & hurt to know what he said about those guys with tragic stories. & he was right because after a few days when I visited the same market, there was another guy in almost the same "get-up" & exact same story with a little variation asking for financial help. So I told him straight up I am no more buying those stories. Upon which he gave me some address in old ancient area of the city & invited me to visit myself to ensure he was not lying. Offcourse, I was not interested in his invitation.
Just a few days ago, another obese woman carrying a baby (I was informed by by-standers years ago that these women rent babies to carry & go on their daily jobs of "begging". They pay the "baby rent" to their original mothers out of the cash they earn through out the day through begging. But I always ignored that too & still used to help those women) suddenly appeared before me out of nowhere. She seemed quite nervous as if she was pushed in front of me by someone (I was also in a hurry leaving the store). I always carry small cash when out to pick essentials. She asked for quite a big amount that I would have to go back home to bring more cash. So I gave her what I could without needing to return home. But as is the case with these professional beggars, she was not happy. They are never happy no matter how much you give them & keep insisting you give them more (This cycle of the same persistent in "begging attitude" goes up to the top bureaucrats of Pakistan & others confirming what Allah says in the Quran about the leaders of any nation). I apologized & walked away only to be stopped by another beggar minutes later of a different community asking me the exact same stuff as was asked by the woman earlier. This 2nd one also seemed to be searching for me before stopping me by blocking my way as if sent by someone. So I knew they both were together clearly professional. Again, I gave him/her (his/her gender was unclear) some cash (but smaller notes after realising they both were together) & walked away.
In the past, there still used to be a smaller probability that some of those spreading hand were actually doing out of need. But in the recent times, the professional begging mafia has become alot more organized & so you would not see the actual needy ones asking for help. The actual needy ones never spread hand. You have to go looking for them. That is a task in itself. I never listened to my mother whenever she told me to ignore those professional beggars. Still used to give something or the other but would never say no. But after listening to dr. Israr Ahmed's lectures about professional beggary of Pakistan & how to deal with it & after seeing even the street druggies begging now (Before they used to commit small robberies but now they spread hand because from their appearance, no one can doubt they were starved / needy), I have gone from giving out smaller notes to apologizing in order to discourage them. When I told my mother this latest story of those two professional beggars that blocked my way on my last trip, she was mad as always because she assumed I gave them cash as I always do, continuing her usual lectures on never to stop even when they force-stop you & how to say no. But when I told her I did not because I was not carrying enough cash & did not want to make a second trip back to home, she was relieved & said I did the right thing. If I had not listened to dr. Israr Ahmed's lectures about discouraging professional beggary, I most likely would have never paid attention to my mother's usual years old lectures of doing the same. But this time I did as he is right, that only encourages them to beg more & not work. However, when encountered with someone really needy then you must never excuse. If you have seen so much in Pakistan, how come you have not seen this aspect ? I think I am going to adopt a more tougher attitude in refusing to give cash to the druggies (to buy more drugs) & the professional beggars from now on.
P.S: "I have edited my previous post to add the part:
And offcourse striving to become a better human every day. Doing charity & all the good deeds.
I thought the above goes without saying but seeing your extreme negative views about practicing muslims, I came back to include that in the list"
& it did not sting. Everyone was terrified when I told them the story.