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Yes she did.
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My dear Skhan, life is full of accidental circumstances which test you all the time. We never know what's waiting for us round the corner. When they got married the situation was very different from now and she was able to move out.
Shukran.
Fara
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khudanakawasta if i was in that situation…as much as it would hurt me and kill me i would chose responsibility over love.
**Nia she has, this friend of mine recognises the burden of her responsibility and has no ‘ifs & buts’ about this issue, it is me who is really worried. I wan her to be with her hubby, enjoy life and let the brother take up the responsibility. **
it wont hurt him to come and live few years with me instead of me going away with him. his citizen ship is not going anywhere. his job he will get anotherone…
Nia yet again, we can’t be insensitive to the guy, he won’t be able to find a job here in Pakistan. They have a set standard of life and money is a big issue for this family. I dont know your expereineces but without money, you have no value in Pakistan, nothing is state funded, you have to use your own resources. I guess you already know all this, but believe me money is important if u decide to life in your home country.
i wanna know what she decides eventually.
i would rather take my ami’s duas
**I will let you know but at the moment she wants to be with her mother.
Jazak Allah Khair
Fara
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Raat ki Rani **I agree with you. *Paris is definitely full of temptations. I am not accusing men, but I understand that it is their in born nature which tempts them. It keeps me worried all the time, I love both of them and just want them to be together now.
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KashmiriRainDrops **I was waiting for your reply. I so very much agree with you and I feel once you have been through painful phases yourself, you have a better understanding of life and the issues which revolve around it. I value your suggestions very much.
Jazak Allah Khair for being so thoughtful,
Fara.
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she should stick to her mum. The guy will understand. Either take her to paris, or the guy moves back to pak,, if the above two situations arent feasible,,, she should just keep caring for her mum. Leaving the mum behind is not an option.
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How long is the immigration process for her mother going to take?
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fara- i know very well value of money in Pakistan. I am sure guy has enough contacts that he can find himself a decent job.
My cousin mashallah went from here to be with his parents. He is now a SVP of Habib bank. He use to work with movers and shakers of investment market right here in time square. He lived here for 10 years because of his wife since her parents were here. Its time for her to give up and she did they have mahslalah a beautiful home in pakistan and 3 cute little kids :~).
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hmm..
she should try to foresee her future Without her mom.. like one day everyone has to go right? .. so what would be her future when her mom will pass away and what if her present husband got fed up from his whole situation and turned away from her as well..??
if not on permanent basis, than atleast she should go to her husband for a short trip or something and than try to come back to her mom.
Tell her to be PRACTICAL.. sometimes you got to take very unpleasant decisions for long lasting fruitful results.