Re: Is she serious…. Or telling me something???
To be fair, her expectations are very high, but rightly so. Aim for the stars and you reach thee sky and all that....
Age thing -fair point, though Im sure if you found the right guy at bang 30 she wouldnt say no (5 odd years isnt much between a couple)
Job thing - i think she wants the freedom of not being forced into maintaining a lifestyle and financial pressures ie many in laws live off their daughter in laws (stupid and unethical in my opinion, but hey they have their reasons...) so her request is a good one here.
Living with in laws - trust me, after a few days, weeks, months or years, she'll run out of there herself :-)
Not overtly religious - she wants a guy with values and ethics, but not a lambee daree mooch wala with his salwar up to his knees, who believes sex is his right and will enforce it violently so. If she's young and hip, she deserves a guy who look sthe part too. Fair point and you should look for a decent looking guy with a good religious outlook for womens rights here.
Good character/ no baggage - this one is a very interesting one. There is some naivety here. ANY Guy or girl not married by 30 are HIGHLY likely to have baggage and you should be prepared to accept this, or look for a much younger guy. If a guy who is good looking, has a great character, is a namazi/religiously moderate type, with the career to support his entire family and his upper middle class wife isnt married by 30...then think, what the hell IS wrong here??
I think its good you are discussing this, but perhaps you'll need to rethink some of these issues...