As we are going through process of finding a match for my daughter, there is a bit tension in the house, and today she told me her expectations:-
- Must be below 30 (she is going to be** 24 **soon).
- She would not require to work, her career would be solely her prerogative.
- Educated and established enough in life to maintain her lifestyle (not very lavish but, we have upper middle class lifestyle).
- Do not want to live alone, so must have extended family to live with.
- Not overtly religious (moulvi) but still religious enough to respect and practice in moderate ways.
- Of must be of good character. no drinking, smoking and not past baggage of relationship (she herself doesn’t carry such baggage).
On my side I feel that:-
- It is too early for guy under 30 to maintain wife on his own.
- She seems to be on the fast track for wonderful career (marketing at a top US IT giant) in such an early stage of her professional life she should not give it up.
- Wish to live with extended family is most welcome, but it is not practical as young peoples move around according to career and one could not guarantee the relationship with in laws (better to go separate way in good times then after souring relationships)
Is she reasonable in her expectation or this just her to telling me do not bother me right now?
SHows she is a bit naive, expected at this age.
BY limiting age below 30 she's decreasing the possibility of finding a guy, who can fullfill rest of teh conditions.
Living will depend upon circumstances, even if she marries now into a big family, they may have to move in a year or two. No one knows what happens tomorrow.