Re: Is she a good bahu or its just that she got an easy pitch to play on?
You’re close. He’s a misogynist.
Re: Is she a good bahu or its just that she got an easy pitch to play on?
People who initially berated the OP for starting such a thread weren't told the whole story. It was only later that the OP mentioned that she could be the second bahu. Also, everyone does have concerns about whether they would fit into a particular family. But to go on about how the first bahu was dealt such an easy hand and everything was served to her on a silver platter was uncalled for. Was it really necessary to mention that the first bahu came from a lower socioeconomic status? By all means, you have every right to be concerned about a potential rishta but that doesn't mean you put down the first bahu and that's exactly how it came across in your original post. For all you know, if you do get married into the family, you might end up becoming great friends.
Re: Is she a good bahu or its just that she got an easy pitch to play on?
she is a good bahu.her nature is really good and she has a loving nature thats y everyone is loving her,The most difficult thing now a dyz is to be everyone`s favourite in susral and she has done this
Re: Is she a good bahu or its just that she got an easy pitch to play on?
Ashy is having twisted thoughts because she reads life1 too much.......... all the guppans jumping at her......... have said similar things in past threads themselves......
Um no, they haven't. I get rishtay...I don't have thoughts of "omg, look at the elder bahu...they love her so much...zaroor koi aur baat hai...this girl cannot possibly be that nice...ppsssshhhhh...whatever". When you see a happy family and these thoughts are going through your head...you're the trouble maker...not them.
If you are going to walk into a family comparing yourself to the other bahu...you are setting yourself up. You might as well start auditioning for a Star Plus drama right now.
In ANY relationship...be it friendship, husband-wife, even work related...you have to try to make things work from your end. You cannot expect people to just see the halo on your head and praise you for sitting there and looking pretty. You have to work at it - much like this girl we're talking about did. Things didn't get handed to her so why would they be handed to the OP?
Ashy, do your best. Be realistic and see what part of this whole scenario you can control. That happens to be your attitude, your treatment of the family and how you end up making a place for yourself. So focus on that.
If they're good people...which by the OP's account they seem to be since they actually recognize how good of a DIL they have...they will see you for who you are.
Qissa khatam.
Re: Is she a good bahu or its just that she got an easy pitch to play on?
Lol! 
Re: Is she a good bahu or its just that she got an easy pitch to play on?
I guess you could say it's more difficult to adjust to a family that has a girl in it already (daughter, older bahu...whatevs), fear of comparison etc. But, it really depends on what kind of person you are majorly. If you're a terrible person....then well, you're terrible and no one will like you. This chick sounds like she really made an effort to be a part of her new family - props to her for that. It's difficult to that on it's own anyways.
Re: Is she a good bahu or its just that she got an easy pitch to play on?
it may take a little longer for second bahu to make her place but what if the susraal is also very good and give the second bahu just as much respect....
Re: Is she a good bahu or its just that she got an easy pitch to play on?
You women think way too much yo!. I mean WAYYYY too much!! Just cut it short. She is happy and her inlaws are happy with her. And i am sure..if some otha bahu comes..she will be respected too. Not every family is out there to kill bahu.
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Hey ashy my first post [woohoo] I am exactly in your situation and my elder SIL is a saint. A real life one. It never even occurred to me what my in laws thought of me, I was ecstatic as i got a very easy ride [lol]. Doubts like these come into play with any rishta, esp since v have heard so many stories of marriages breaking down.
If u click with the guy and generally the family is nice, do istikhara and please dnt sweat the details. I think u r ready for marriage but jst over analysing it.
PS. I am still a slob, but I respect my in laws, never speak back to them, or speak ill of them and they appreciate it. And as some1 mentioned whenever ppl praise my SIL, and they do that a lot, I nod appreciatively.
best of luck