Is she a good bahu or its just that she got an easy pitch to play on?

[Ashy2010]

Re: Is she a good bahu or its just that she got an easy pitch to play on?

@Reha

You know what scares me about marriage? The above post.

If she does a great job…its not because she IS a great bahu or a good person or working so hard. Its because she got an easy pitch. A free ride. No competition.

Do you have any idea how hard it is to make a place in a family for yourself? She is working hard and doing a stellar job and others like yourself are analyzing her poor background and low social status. Everything that you describe above…that you admittedly fear you cannot do…and you still think she got an easy pitch? Really?

You fear you cannot do what she does but somehow because SHE is doing it and because she comes from a lower income bracket…its easy for her?

You didn’t feel any shame writing such things about someone who did nothing to you?

I am disappointed.

Reha, I belong to the same social background as hers. In fact, she has a father and I lost my father long ago and I have been supporting my family. I have not been very good in managing household chores as I have been working since very young age. Thats why when I see the way she manages the house, I don’t think I can do all this. She has been remembering the names of her MIL and FIL medicines and I have not been a very good daughter to my mother’s since I have been working since I was 17, managing the family’s problems (in the absence of my father and any elder sibling). I have more been acting as the son of the family and thats why I am not that confident of marrying into that family since I already saw her being such a good bahu.