Ok so inshallah my brothers wedding is planned for this December and we have 2 go 2 pakistan as the girls side are not agreeing to come to UK…we are a bit weary as the situation is not so good there..
what do other people think?
any tips for when we go there? as we will end up having to rent out a property as we have a lot of family who would be going with us…
Its just worrying with all the murders and burglaries happening..i assume its not safe 2 even wear gold down there…so this will be a fun wedding!
what do people in other countries and in Pakistan think of having a wedding there?
No, Weddings are not safe in Pakistan. The after-effects include headache, depression, financial troubles and occasional kids. Keep out of reach of children.
it wont be an issue.. i got married in karachi myself and women in my family are decked from head to foot in gold (though they wear abayas and veils when travelling so u cant see much)
in the end its ure luck.. but dont worry.. inshallah things will go great!
On a serious note, if you are traveling from abroad to Pakistan to get married, do not tell anyone of your arrival date. Tell only very select few trusted people. A lot of cases i have now heard of, including one very close family friends, where the arriving party gets followed home from the airport. About ten-fifteen minutes after the arriving party settles, men carrying guns enter the house and clean up the whole place.
On a serious note, if you are traveling from abroad to Pakistan to get married, do not tell anyone of your arrival date. Tell only very select few trusted people. A lot of cases i have now heard of, including one very close family friends, where the arriving party gets followed home from the airport. About ten-fifteen minutes after the arriving party settles, men carrying guns enter the house and clean up the whole place.
Cheegum is right. I have heard this happening in Lahore......even a whole program was aired by Geo TV about robbers chasing passengers and looting them in way especially in Defense and Model Town area.
*I recommend you book one or two night stay at PC, Avari or Holiday Inn Hotels and ask their airport pickup service. Driver will be waiting for you with name plate at arrivals and transfer direct to hotel securely *
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inform your arrival ONLY to girls father and ask him to keep it secret. He could be more trust worthy person than your own relatives. Wear simple clothes and no gold jewelery.
What's wrong with all of you? You make Pk sound like frikkin Nigeria.
Yes, the security situation in Pakistan is not the best at the moment. Yes, these kind of robberies do happen. Yes, the country is in a very bad state politically.
But I still think it is safe to travel there if you use normal precautionary measures. I agree with the "Wear simple clothes and no gold jewelery" tip. Not only on arrival but during your stay in general (with the exception of the wedding functions of course). But this "keep your arrival a secret from everyone" goes a bit overboard I think.
As long as you don't go around "showing off" the fact that you're wealthier than the majority of the Pk population, you should be fine.
Main problems faced by overseas Pakistanis is due to own relatives in Pakistan. I have been to London a number of times and know internal family issues with their relatives in Pakistan. I think 90% families have issues. I have seen newly wed girls being beaten by their husbands.....due to family politics, etc.
One of my uncle does the hotel thing. He comes from UK and stays 2 nights in the hotel before shifting to house. Keeps a low profile.
Due to all the security problems in Pakistan, and especially in Lahore, we don't get married here anymore. We just wake up one day and start co-habitating. Saves us a lot of trouble.
Its sad to see that theres troubles in pakistan but life moves on and pakistanis are good at that.
How many bomb blasts have taken place in pakistan and when?
How many people have actually been robbed?
When you look at the actual stats Im sure they will look tiny. Theres no gaurantee that you will not become a statistic.
The only issue i would be worried about is if its a forced marriage. I have plenty of friends all over Pakistan of all backgrounfds. Some have very blissful lives.
No its not safe! and the people who r laughing they dont know anything..!!
My aunt travelled form UK to Lahore for his sons wedding. They stayed at my other aunts place at lahore and yess a robbery took place.. not just robbery but my aunt was murdered the day before the wedding..because they not only took all the jewellry they shot her before they left... so be very carefull.... dont tell anyone that ur coming from abroad... try not to put lights up outside ur house.. tell ppl if asked u have moved locally..good luck :)