Precisely, point of my example was to show you not everyone thinks the same so when looking for a partner you should opt for one with similar views so there are no surprises after.
with things become routine, there is no question about it, you just get tired of doing same thing again and again, my question is how all those couples manage? does it become more of a need than love for each others company?
lol! so what the difference? only that you don’t know and don’t seem to be worried abt it, whereas I don’t know either and do worry about! get to my age and u will know
It was a joke Nav! No one can know about it unless they have been through it all. It’s ok if you think long term relationship is not for you, no one can force you into it. I know of girls who think the same way, you just gotta find one of em.
I will tell you a slightly inappropriate story… I was just in Florida as you know visiting my mum before her surgery. I woke up early one morning to see if I could get a run in before I had a chance to get cornered by my grandmother whose favourite pastime is commenting on my singleness. I rounded the corner and caught sight of movement in the kitchen. It was my (step)father and my mother (who’ve been married for 30 odd years now) locked in a passionate embrace and all but giggling. In my younger years I would have been horrified. In my thirties it put a smile on my face that lasted a good while.
Love grows… it expands and contracts. Nothing will be like the first few years which are overrun with passion. But when that passion fades something else emerges. A comfort and familiarity. You might think that those things are boring. They’re not. They’re extraordinary and there will be nothing like looking into the eyes of a woman who has seen you through both your darkest and happiest moments. It’s the kind of love where Dad sometimes helps her tie her shoes when her knees hurt her. That kind of love might not burn as brightly anymore but it still burns and the burn is consistent.
But I’m a complete sap and romantic so there is that…
aww, such a romantic story. why don’t I feel like that? why can’t I change my perspective? why can’t I bring myself to take the plunge? anyways. I m feeling lonely now and crawling back to my hut
Define emotional bluntness? If you mean that you speak your mind, that is not generally a hindrance unless you are only encountering hyper-sensitive people
You’re right, Pie-girl. Only a “hyper”-sensitive girl would lose her chit if a guy bluntly told her, “I am just not in love with you anymore. I don’t feel that same level of attraction. I’m just goin’ through the motions and that’s not fair to you. It’s me, not you. You deserve better than me. Ima set you free now.” Yeah, the girl needs to develop a thicker skin.
It could also be the cultural differences between you and the girls you’re seeing which are preventing such a connection from getting established. Like the song goes:
Shehar ki larkiyaan chahay kuch bhi kerein,
Gaon ki goorian bhool sakti nahin.
We tend to hit a wall in relationships if there are cultural differences. I always hit that wall among friends. I have deeper friendships with my friends who grew up in Pakistan compared to my friends who grew up elsewhere. The communication is at an entirely another level when the other person is from your own subculture.
