Re: is MAID a better choice??
Sister, I agree and understand what you mean here, let me clear my perspective.
I am not against a maid if she is there to support and help the mother to make her work easy, but I was talking about the cases where the mother goes out for a job and leaves her child to the mercy of a maid. You see, no one can be like a mother. In some cases the maid try to give food to the child and if the child doesn't eat she might eat it herself and tell you later that the child has eaten food. I am sure that not all cases are like that but how can you be sure that she is not using shortcuts to make her own life comfortable.
Allah has blessed this quality only to a mother that she happily sleeps on that part of the bed which is made dirty by the child and let the child sleep on the clean place of the bed.
Would you even like to happily touch the diaper of someone else's baby ? NO ! then why expect a maid to be sincere and deal with your baby like she would deal her own baby
Maybe you have not heard such great experiences with maids...so you generalise that kids will be mis-treated by maids. Maids are human beings too and they may be in a poorer circumstance than you, but they do have morals and principles. After all if you view your employees with suspicion, then they are likely to act that way.