Why would any sane girl want to marry a guy who doesn't have a steady income? That's just asking for it. Unless you can convince him to be a ghar damad :p. Usually all those "self-employed" guys who just depend on a "family business" are dumb as hell and never had to or bothered to learn anything in their life because they knew all along they were going to fall back on the family business. Oh it's true.
Re: Is job an important criteria
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for marriage?
do you think a guy needs a job before he can think about getting married?
would girls prefer a guy who had a stable job before he commits?
and would guys be put off by a girl if she had a better job than him?
does the man always need to earn more and be the bredwinner?
yes..you'v guessed it...im bored!!!
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a: Yes
b: Cant answer
c: No
d: See c:.
^ would you be able to explain your answers please?
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^ but is it right for a person to reject a "potential" on the basis that they don't have a steady job?
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Damn right it is right to do that! No job = loser at that point in time. Wait till he gets a job.
but hes fit..and what if i never get a fit guy wanting to marry me again??????
hahaha...as if..
im kidding, no way am i thinking of marriage, i just wanted to know what this generation of males and females thought about this issue...
it would be a totally different set of answers if one was to ask the parents
Not really. My ideas on this topic are copied from my parents....
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Well, werent her questuons about the criteria before marriage? Ofcourse, there are ups and downs in everyone's life and one can face them at any point of life so what..? I mean what is your question?
Ofcourse your loved ones only can give you any kind of support that you may need at the time of any kind of crisis in your life. I dont think her questions were about that.
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lets say you are well settled in your life.. and YOU GET MARRIED ... but all of a sudden.. you lose that job.. are unemployed can't find a job.. then what?
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it all depends what you rate IMPORTANT in your life..
for me.. job comes and goes, money comes and goes.. Allah has promised us that HE will take care of where we are born, where and how much we earn and where we die.. so i am not worried about them..
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Usually all those "self-employed" guys who just depend on a "family business" are dumb as hell and never had to or bothered to learn anything in their life because they knew all along they were going to fall back on the family business. Oh it's true.
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bhai, how do you knw they are dumb? just coz Allah has given their family a little push with a well set business ?
I can help my dad in his business but that doesn't mean i am dumb!.. it will STUPID not to help your own family in their business when you have an oppurtunity.. simple stuff..
i think you need to grow up.. and see the reality..
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bhai, how do you knw they are dumb? just coz Allah has given their family a little push with a well set business ?
I can help my dad in his business but that doesn't mean i am dumb!.. it will STUPID not to help your own family in their business when you have an oppurtunity.. simple stuff..
i think you need to grow up.. and see the reality..
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Actually if you re-read my post you will realize 2 things:
I said "usually", my statement applies to most not all.
I have answered your question in my post. I am not saying one shouldn't help in the business. If you have a family business well good for you. What I've noticed from my experience is that sons from well to do families with business are often spoilt brats. They haven't a care in the world and are least interested in obtaining an education or establising some sort of career for themselves. Why? Because they don't have to. They know that abbu jee kaheen fit kara denge company main.
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^ would you be able to explain your answers please?
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a: Yes
I believe that a man needs to be employed or self employed or have some sort of income before he ties the knot.
b: NO
I am not a girl so cannot answer the question.
c: No
This is the 21st century. What if you are a doctor and she is a Investment Banker or She is a Doctor and you are an engineer. I know few couples where the wife makes more money. But you know what M_M thats life. Men need to understand this fact of life. In other words its time to grow out of this male dominated society and smell the roses. So to sum it up I wouldnt be put off rather turned on.
d: Come-on do I really have to explain that see c: