I feel the essence is important and for that reason the typical minutia people get stuck on is not my concern, like made up terms like “madhab” and what nots. My point was that people have concerns with bidah yet staunchly defend and use stories from books compiled decades and centuries after the prophets passings as basis of their position. I am suggesting that if someone is do concerned about cutting a cake as bidah which it’s not considering no one does it as some religious obligation however they are probably engaged in bidah based on turning hadeeth into gods word.
The issue is when people have a religious basis to make an issue of a birthday party but then are content with madhab and existence of stuff like masyar and Mutah etc.
As far as Wahhabis go, I lived in KSA. Those puritanical clowns are not to be used as an example to emulate.