Is it wrong to wait for love?

[redvelvet]

Re: Is it wrong to wait for love?

@salaam2k14

^^i never received love but felt it for another person. There’s a difference right? What Aaze, Paheli and redvelvet said is absolutely right in that As much as I’m trying to make myself believe that I’m over the man I felt unrequited love for, I’m not and I’m guessing it’s going to take another year to recover fully. So I can be entirely open to the next person. I do keep wanting that same look in the eyes and the same smile in another man. It is an indication that I’ve put him on a pedestal.

It might be a no brainer for someone that’s fully over the past but this was my first love(or unrequited love).

Err…how do you know that it’ll take “another year” for u to get over him?

I can tell you from experience that it can take you much much less than a year or much more than a year to get over someone…and to an extent it has to do with you. If you spend much of your time dwelling on him instead of channeling your thoughts in other, more productive directions… You’re likely to be stuck on him longer. Occupy your time with ibadat if you’re not regular in it…that’s a good place to start and it’ll put things in perspective for u. Resigning yourself to the conclusion that it must take a whole 'nother year of your life is well..a bit melodramatic. It’s kinda filmy. And most of us have veered off into filmy territory at some points…and you don’t realize it at the moment…but later on you look back and feel like cringing at the waste of time.