Is it wrong to wait for love?

[salaam2k14]

Re: Is it wrong to wait for love?

@marigold

I’ve never been in love and i don’t believe in love at first sight. i think love is something that happens over time as you get to know the person and share experiences with each other. Please don’t believe people who say “when I first met her, I knew she was the one” - there is no way they knew that at the first meeting, that was probably just them thinking hey this person is really nice and attractive and I see some potential here. And then it just so happened that everything worked out.

So I would say yes, wait for love, but don’t refrain from giving people chances just because you didn’t feel a spark at the first meet. Try to get to know them well enough and then make a proper decision of whether you want to go forward.

I’m not looking for love at first sight stuff at all. I spent close to two years with the guy that I felt “in love” with. But it was not a relationship but more of a situation of me being in immense pain and he was more of a therapist that took me out of that pain. Classic case of patient falling in love with her psychiatrist. I mistook the constant care and motivation to recover as something more which wasn’t the same for him. Anyways, now i’m just trying to move ahead and trying to find the same kindness and peacefulness I saw in his eyes which is very hard for any other man to duplicate…

There’s no way to press that fast forward button so I can get over all that so i’m going to put all my efforts into self improvements and reaching out to others.

I did try to get to know this new guy. Tell me, if you’re a guy would you really wear a worn out shirt and jeans that you would wear to fix stuff around the house when you meet a potential rishta for marriage. Keep in mind you aren’t the superficial type but atleast make some effort to make a good first in person impression right?