Re: Is it wrong to wait for love?
When I met my husband (arranged marriage) I thought he was nice polite decent and civilised. He was a nice guy. Did I feel any love? Of course not. Love doesn’t happen in half an hour. I started to like him when we got engaged. I fell in love with him after I married him. Love takes time. You need to have to live with someone and go through emotional experiences together to build love. We’ve been married three years now we have a baby girl and alhumdulillah we love each other very much. I only made dua to Allah and asked Him for a life partner who would love me and respect me and be kind to me and when I married my husband I went into it thinking this is it now, there will be no other for me and I will work at this relationship 110%. Alhumdulillah Allah answers our duas. Anyways the love you have as a couple changes over time too. It changes even more when you have kids. The dynamics change. But it doesn’t mean the love is any less just different. Love at first sight I don’t believe in. You need to see the good and bad of a person to love them. You see their imperfections and love them anyway.
What about attraction those first couple of times you met? Did you atleast feel that he was handsome so there would be room for attraction in the future?