My cousins and friends think it is strange that I have had crushes on women who have been older like 2-6 years rather than women my age or younger. I find older women more mature, worldly, experienced and less materialistic. Maybe it’s a generalisation I’ve found true in my experience. Since I’m more relaxed and though I’m ambitious my job is flexible and I’m more of an introverted type who is a homebody although I have adventurous moments. I don’t mind having to work from home and having time to do whatever household tasks like cooking, cleaning and laundry etc I find I’m more attracted to women who are ambitious, have a career plan and want to follow their dreams whatever profession. Is that really unusual or unacceptable? Why is it thought of as strange? They think im being weak and my preference shows i like to be dominated or something weird like that. My family is conservative and believe in guys roles and girls roles more than me. I’m trying to make them change their mind. It’s an uphill battle.
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It's not just unusual. It's unnatural; a sin.
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Really redvelvet :( how do I atone for such sinful behaviour :( can things ever be right again?
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Your cousins and friends would judge the older woman more harshly. I wouldn't be surprised if they (and your family) would see the older woman as a cradle-robber, a taiz/conniving woman who has trapped innocent/naive you and who knows what other tricks she has up her sleeve, oh and of course there must be something wrong with her because otherwise she wouldn't still be single. They just think you're "strange" and "strange" is very mild in comparison to the judgment she'd be subjected to....along with other reasons such as she will age faster than you, she won't be able to give you enough kids to make a cricket team, laug kya kahain ge, etc etc.
Pcg, God has listened to your prayers. Hallelujah.
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I agree with you red velvet. Why are people so judgemental and how can we change these views? These are hardly as prevalent in other societies. I think with friends and cousins if they did judge outlook down on my wife I'd have to break contact with them. Parents it's harder but already my parents have misconceptions of me so they will think its good I actually found some one who can bardasht me. People can be single because they had other things to do, They were picky or had standards. There's always adoption if you want more kids or fairer kids and for what people will say there's always the donkey story. People always talk. Women live longer than guys so that you live more life together marry someone older. I've heard about the kids but females aren't baby making factories. Why would you leave a good rishta because you can't get children. Marriage is. More than that.
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Pcg, God has listened to your prayers. Hallelujah.
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I'm dark not super tall and not very ambitious. My parents say no girl will like me. They're trying to find rishtas for me but they've given up because hard to find what I want and hard to find girls who accept me for what I am.
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oh lord, your parents sound mean. usually they think planets revolve around their sons no matter how awful looking or uneducated/jobless.
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Pcg, God has listened to your prayers. Hallelujah.
all the more reason to suspect daal mein kuch kaala hai
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oh lord, your parents sound mean. usually they think planets revolve around their sons no matter how awful looking or uneducated/jobless.
Just when Pcormac was starting to embrace himself a wee li'l bit.......
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oh lord, your parents sound mean. usually they think planets revolve around their sons no matter how awful looking or uneducated/jobless.
not if the son does the crime of leaving a higher status career as an engineer. I'm not unemployed even though my career isn't where I want it to be. They never really accepted my skin colour so not fussed on looks. girls have been attracted to me in the past so it's not impossible
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all the more reason to suspect daal mein kuch kaala hai
I'm not a daal chawal person I like biryani. Another example of colorist discrimination in our language. Why must the daal be contaminated with a Kaala element why not gora? Masoor ki daal is dark anyways. I'm here to talk about my issues in the context of Pakistani society not to impress girls because from chat people know how bad I am talking to girls.
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Just when Pcormac was starting to embrace himself a wee li'l bit.......
Don't worry about it red velvet while there were confidence boosting posts some of them demolished me. if faced with a choice the majority would go gora. So unless a girl says to me in real " you're my prince charming, my dark night and with you I want to ride off in the sunset with I won't believe it." how do I know they won't leave me if parents arrange a marriage with a fair doctor or engineer type.
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pccormac2013
I suspect you've, to some extent, bought into the feminist B.S of the "progressive man". The truth is that feminism is creating men that women themselves despise and don't find attractive / acceptable.
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Your cousins and friends would judge the older woman more harshly. I wouldn't be surprised if they (and your family) would see the older woman as a cradle-robber, a taiz/conniving woman who has trapped innocent/naive you and who knows what other tricks she has up her sleeve, oh and of course there must be something wrong with her because otherwise she wouldn't still be single. They just think you're "strange" and "strange" is very mild in comparison to the judgment she'd be subjected to....along with other reasons such as she will age faster than you, she won't be able to give you enough kids to make a cricket team, laug kya kahain ge, etc etc.
WTH its NOT A SIN!! do you know anything about islam?!
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Really redvelvet :( how do I atone for such sinful behaviour :( can things ever be right again?
it not a sin you can marry someone older that you if you want
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WTH its NOT A SIN!! do you know anything about islam?!
I believe that you've missed the sarcasm in rv's post....
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I believe that you've missed the sarcasm in rv's post....
ahh thank goodness a couple of times people have said really absurd things and were sure it was real in islam
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all the more reason to suspect daal mein kuch kaala hai
That's not a nice thing to say when the guy has been posting about the difficulty he has had in accepting his skin colour.
You two should talk, for real. Maybe think about consolidating your threads. :\
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I believe that you've missed the sarcasm in rv's post....
Thank you, Muzna. Not the first time AN has rushed to misinterpret.