that men define family values and women only follow them?
For example, if men are conservative then their womenfolk will also be conservative. If men are liberal, then women are also liberal and not vice versa.
Same is true for religious values.
And at-least in Pak, women’s political thought is only a reflection of what their men think. I have never seen a wife supporting a political party other than what her husband supports.
Agree?
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not true.
Ive seen examples of men being conservative in dress and views whilst their wives are wearing boob tubes and minis.... not sure how the relationship works, but at least on the face it shows as it does.
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What is the boob tube?
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not true.
Ive seen examples of men being conservative in dress and views whilst their wives are wearing boob tubes and minis.... not sure how the relationship works, but at least on the face it shows as it does.
What you are saying is only the difference of choice of dress, he could be more liberal than his dress shows.
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This is so not true. In my house my dad is the one who is SO liberal. He does not pray, he is modern. My mum is the uber conservative and religious type. I think this is a good combination since we (children) are religious and modern at the same time. We know our boundaries (thanks to mum) but can have fun within those boundaries (thanks to dad).
As for political parties. My dad is a hard core PPP supporter and mum and I support PML-Q.
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no
men should ask and talk to women about all the ghar kay issues work is different ..
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I do.
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What you are saying is only the difference of choice of dress, he could be more liberal than his dress shows.
Did i not say 'conservative in views' as well? does that not suggest a conversation may have taken place where the male has uttered his views on how conservative or liberal he may be?
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Like it or not, there's a hadith/verse, Agar jayaz hota to Khudaa k baad pehla sajda shohar ka hota. As much as the feminists in us don't like to hear this kinda stuff, there's a reason why the man is the head of the household in Islam and I'm not getting into that debate. All I'm going to say is as long as my hubby (or anyone else for that matter) does not take away my rights from me (such as the right to work) I'll be happy to oblige to what he says.
That said, a balanced relationship is the ideal relationship (in Islam too). If I agree to my husband's likes and dislikes, I'd like him to do the same. I'd like him to value my opinion just like I value his. This is the kind of relationship my parents share and I've grown up watching em share a fair relationship. What mom thinks is important for dad to know before he takes any action in any matter and vice versa...
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that men define family values and women only follow them?
For example, if men are conservative then their womenfolk will also be conservative. If men are liberal, then women are also liberal and not vice versa.
Same is true for religious values.
And at-least in Pak, women's political thought is only a reflection of what their men think. I have never seen a wife supporting a political party other than what her husband supports.
Agree?
Disagree.
Yes, there are women who are very submissive and follow their husband's values/beliefs without question.
However, in my personal experience, most women pick and choose their "battles". These women will "give up" certain things if the man cares about it more than they do....but in return, they make it clear to the man as to what's important to them. As for politics, I don't know too many women (especially desi) who're very passionate about their political parties. There is a major difference between supporting a team (whether its political, sports, special interest group...whatever) because you're adopting your husband's values, and supporting the team publically b/c you really don't care one way or another.
Also, many times women don't disagree with their husband's in public b/c they don't want to come across as being not supportive. When I'm out with my SO, there are many time he makes comments in his social group that I disagree with. Yet while in public, I always support him. But when we're alone, I let him know how I truly feel. Just b/c a woman supports a political party that her husband supports, that doesn't necessarily mean she agrees with its beliefs.
At the end of the day, it's about compromise and choosing your battles. Each person in a relationship needs to decide what's worth the fight...and what's worth letting go for the sake of the relationship.
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Not true.. My dad is about as liberal as u can get whilst my mum is very conservative.. my mum did used to be that way as well but changed when I was around 13..
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at the end of the day, man can only be what woman (mother) teaches him to be - so in real, its still women defining the values.
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:@:
at the end of the day, man can only be what woman (mother) teaches him to be - so in real, its still women defining the values.
Well said............
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at the end of the day, man can only be what woman (mother) teaches him to be - so in real, its still women defining the values.
true!
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Ive always seen the women set the tone and cultivate the family's lifestyle.
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that men define family values and women only follow them?
For example, if men are conservative then their womenfolk will also be conservative. If men are liberal, then women are also liberal and not vice versa.
Same is true for religious values.
And at-least in Pak, women's political thought is only a reflection of what their men think. I have never seen a wife supporting a political party other than what her husband supports.
Agree?
Not true.
My husband is too liberal, I'm very much conservative, in dressing as well as thought process.
As far as religious values are concerned, I've always seen the women being extra religious while the men being liberal in their practices. The kids end up adapting the mother's vlaues as she spends more time with them.
My husband is too much into politics, I dislike it..... so basically I don't support any party while he even actively works for one.
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at the end of the day, man can only be what woman (mother) teaches him to be - so in real, its still women defining the values.
But the mother has already been moulded by her husband, right?
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Look women belong in either the kitchen or the bedroom. Who the hell told them they could do anything else?
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But the mother has already been moulded by her husband, right?
NO before she was with husband she was already been molded by her mother.
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It saddens me to see no one has answered you. Breaks my heart to know you are sitting out there somewhere without knowing of the beautiful accident that is the boob tube.