Re: is it true that nowadays girls find it hard to get a rishta if they r not doctors
but what I've seen experienced, in my surroundings that not only doctors, any girl who's highly educated and working along have problems in their rishtas because the guys parents say "Ohh she's highly qualified so she must be above 25 and also working ohh then must be too bold, sharp tongued so will be difficult live with" and it really happens and those girls can get married sooner or later but with older uncle type men.
Re: is it true that nowadays girls find it hard to get a rishta if they r not doctors
I think the doctor demand is higher for girls who are brought from Pakistan as the time it takes for them to become a doctor is far much less then US and the IL can still brag about a doctor bahu even if she never practiced. I remember it posting earlier also but around 90% of my class fellows(girls) never practiced as they got married early on. The irony was that the class was comprised of 90% girls as girls study much harder in Pakistan due to nonexistence of other social activities which guys have ample opportunities for.
I personally think this is very selfish of these girls and their families to send their daughters to medical college when they are planning for them not to practice afterwards. Especially when a country like Pakistan which is in a dire need of doctors in rural areas where these girls won't be sent to practice any ways after graduating, this is just a waste of resources.
Re: is it true that nowadays girls find it hard to get a rishta if they r not doctors
its sad but its true,
Somehow people are crazy about finding a doctor bride ,
Maybe young generation doesn't bother much but most parrents just want doctor rishta.
My parrents are not an exception :) although i would just want a highly educated ,beautiful and polite girl.
Nice thoughts dude...couldn't agree more....actually its trend mostly in parent's thinking specially in PAK....But i think now days the momentum has been shifted towards business studies and commerce graduates with recent developments in the banking industry and business firms...my mother seeking rishta for my brother usually falls for the girls who have done MBA or working in Banks rather than doctors.....
Re: is it true that nowadays girls find it hard to get a rishta if they r not doctors
in my community its the super uneducated aunties with sons who barely finished community college that want the doctor bahus. i think any one with any level of education realizes that any degree/career/education takes hard work and can be turned into success.
Re: is it true that nowadays girls find it hard to get a rishta if they r not doctors
Not true in my brothers case. We didn't want a doctor, he is highly educated and making good money. He wanted someone who was fine with being an educated stay at home mom. We did get a couple of doctors but they were not what we were looking for. So no in our case we were looking far from a doctor, educated and a decent girl but not a doctor.
Re: is it true that nowadays girls find it hard to get a rishta if they r not doctors
In my community, I've noticed that women in the medical field, usually marry other medical professionals. I recently finished my studies, which were in the medical field, and most of my married classmates were married to some sort of medical professional (i.e. doctor, radiologist, pharmacist, etc.). I think the reason for this is that they (and their families) feel that another medical professional will be more understanding of the challenges that working in the field presents.
I find it rather hard to believe that a doctor (or any educated professional, for that matter) would marry someone super uneducated (or that their family would allow it). No one I know has gone that route, but each community is different, so who knows.
Re: is it true that nowadays girls find it hard to get a rishta if they r not doctors
I am a lawyer. Before getting married I of course went through the rishta process. And there were a few instances where, prior to the family even seeing my pic, I was dismissed. Why? Following the initial phone conversation with my mum, the aunty would deem me as being "too educated" (later repeated to whichever go between we were using). There was also an instance where a guy said no to me because "she drives a better car than me and earns more than me."
My point is, there will always be people who think you are too educated, not educated enough etc etc. You can't please everyone. There will even be girls out there who are super educated (including doctors) who may even be rejected for that very reason. But the right person will appreciate you just the way you are.
Re: is it true that nowadays girls find it hard to get a rishta if they r not doctors
Pakistaniyat is the sense of being Pakistani. It is being patriotic to the state of Pakistan. Being proud of your language...history...dress...food...music...literary tradition. I will repeat here...stop creating mini Pakistans in your adoptive countries and let go and assimilate once you have made this choice.
Re: is it true that nowadays girls find it hard to get a rishta if they r not doctors
This doctor thing is much in demand in the US, why because doctors earn a lot and us desis are a greedy lot. In Pakistan, doctors don't out earn other professionals by as much. E.g. MBAs earn a lot in Pakistan and actually at an average more than doctors while first starting out.
Re: is it true that nowadays girls find it hard to get a rishta if they r not doctors
Less than 1% of Pakistani females are doctors...so are you trying to say the other 99% are no getting married because they are not doctors? the less than 1% doctors you are asking about are what is called "statistically insignificant"...just like your post.
Re: is it true that nowadays girls find it hard to get a rishta if they r not doctors
Most of my guy friends wanted girls who sat at home. Few wanted someone totally uneducated but in Pakistan you can get you bachelors done at a younger age than in America so the college educated brides in Pakistan are younger anyway.
I know very few guys who are completely comfortable with a wife who is a doctor. At least not in the USA. Doctors here usually practice, the idea of sitting at home after 10 years of education (college + med school + residency) on avg is ridiculous to Americans, and docs come with loans, and yes they do make decent money and eventually can afford nice cars, a home, etc, and that usually scares a guy and his family that the girl will be in control.
I've had similar experiences to mzprinxess88.
It's not just docs, it's young working females in general.
