Is it too forward...

Lifestyle Relationships
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…to ask a potential partner to take a physical exam/blood test before marriage?

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Yes. But these days potential partner should understand. Comparatively speaking, it does make sense for checking for STD but other diseases....including genetic diseases, more difficult.

The question can be difficult and awkward to ask with some risk of the person being offended.

What if other person asks the same?

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better safe than sorry

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^Agree.

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Even if they agree to it... you still can never be sure if they'd share the actual results...

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While the idea is not so bad in these days, next questions will be,

Can you perform? Prove it!

Can you procreate/concieve? Prove it!
In the end, marriages will become less, people will just wander singles!

OR

Those who want to get married will do these tests and exams on regular basis, carry a certificate to be eligible for marrriage, pay a fee, renew it every so often, till they get married.

Marriage ads wording will have hilarious claims like,

...bona-fide eligible, currently certifed bachelor looking for someone who has same or similar certificate. Send a notarized copy of certificate for review....Doctor reports and recent sperm count must be attached....:D

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yeah i think ppl are just lookin for things to reject ppl ... there are a billion other ways to chek for a person's character more discreetly than this

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if it's someone who lives far away or you don't know them at all, I think it's ok to ask for a blood test to check for STDs. the guy can also ask the girl for one. but if a girl knows the guy reeeeally well and for a long time, she knows his background, then I don't think the girl should ask for a blood test.

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Bitter pill to swallow . Our man ego is huge . Otherwise no harm asking if both can take the test .

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It's a huge bezati for a man and a question of izzat .... even if he has been a mega player in the past.

Personally, I think it's quite sensible and both parties should do it.

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Persons attitude tell you everything.

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I think it is smart to get tested and ask the other person to get tested before having sex. The last thing I would want is an STI. You can leave an unfulfilling relationship, but you deal with STI's forever - and not to forget, limited options for future partners.

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Got no problems with it. I know for a fact that which ever girl I end up marrying is getting a full physical - talk about sexual innuendo - and blood work done. Its better to be safe than sorry. It is also about my health and that of my future kids.

I have no problem being tested for STDs and blood work because I have nothing to hide.

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In addition to STD's and venereal diseases, you'll also be sure of any genetic disorders.

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So how exactly would u go about asking a potential partner without scaring them off?

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Very sensible but quite insulting.

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I have noticed a few people say its insulting? Can someone explain to me why? I know most females would find it insulting by why do the men?

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And besides it is a work permit requirement in Sudan as well. So no escape from it.

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If you are ok to offer the same yourself.

And then is it ok to reject a relationship, if the other person's heredity traits include diabetes, arthritis, heart problems, obesity, migraine, etc?

I think it is ones right only if one is willing to reciprocate.

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Depends which place are you talking about. If its USA/Canada or other western country, you might just give access to medical records to prospective rishta. This will not be unpolite and will tell everything about the person.