Its sound crazy , but it’s happened, one of my friend, he is in trouble, his family select almost final a girl for him, and now he comes to know, girl elder sister and his future sister in law is his Ex university fellow and girl friend.
Is it solid reason to refuse, that girl elder sister is his Ex girl friend? on this ground he should refuse this proposal or let it be going on, since the elder sister of girl is already engaged?
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
Ex girlfriend!? 
Won’t the feelings again come up for both of them if they get to see each other frequently!? Well, I believe it may create problems in the long run, if both or either of them haven’t moved on or still harbour feelings.
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
Moral of the story: Better not have girlfriends if you are going to marry the girl your family 'selects' for you.
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
^ lol! 
Indeed true!
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
Yah very true, but if you see round , now a day’s boys/girls make girl/boy friend in college, university or elsewhere by their own wish, and the same time they are ready to get marry with their family wish i think same happening with him.
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
That shouldn't be an instant disqualifier but definitely should be weighed when he makes his choice.
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
I'd find it too weird.. and I'm ok with most things..
Random old girlfriends I wouldn't have a problem with.. but a physical/sexual relationship with my sister.. no..
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
Run. That is Indian soap opera level of drama.
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
Propose the ex instead. LOL
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
Marry the one selected for you and try not to do hanky panky with the SIL :D
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
Better to leave this proposal. The girls your parents selected for you is not the last girl of the world. There are many beauties either.
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
It will be a difficult situation for the future SIL since the girls usually face problems if their husbands find out something about their ex. The OPs friend might not be faced with an awkward relationship with the future SIL but ex-girlfriend might be when her fiance/ husband will get to know know that they had been in same uni (he might get a hint about their past relationship or can get to know about their past relationship through some authentic sources).
Better to avoid the proposal, IMO.
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
Yah very true, but if you see round , now a day’s boys/girls make girl/boy friend in college, university or elsewhere by their own wish, and the same time they are ready to get marry with their family wish i think same happening with him.
What if you had gal friend, and you are in arrange setup and when you proceeded and found out that your family picked your gal friend as your going to be wife.
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
If he marry the girl, his SALI will be aadhey ghar wali... literally
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
Just when u think you have read it all.... Out comes a guppy eith something totally new... Like a new odd
:d
Refuse with a capital Z!!
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
I’m just hoping for a “like” by Riz2012
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
Ahaa… I am unlucky in this sence:bummer:, i don’t have any gal. friend, and i m not willing to, i want to marry and she will every thing for me.
as u said let’s suppose if i have girl freind , ofcourse i will inform to my family to pick her for me .
can u read urdu ? i wrote a story the same situation was in that story. if you like to read i can give u its link .
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
Yes, I can. I also read your blog entry few minutes ago.
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
ok i will post in my blog
Re: Is it solid Reason to Refuse?
If he marry the girl, his SALI will be aadhey ghar wali... literally
Riz: Here is a solution.