Re: Is it right?
This is not like that. This is a muslim family. He is kind of a family friend, we don’t really meet much (maybe once in a few years, pretty distant), but the family is very well respected in the community. We know of people that know them and praise the guy a lot.
The problem here, really , is one thing..that they are from India. The guy is very well educated , good-looking, his somewhat religious (maybe my father and us are more inclined towards religion but I don’t see the problem, he is a practicing muslim), everyone talks about what a great person he is and overall from a good family. Obviously no one is perfect. Another plus point is that he is born and raised here. Letting go of this would most likely mean having to chose a husband from overseas. I don’t really have a problem with that but I’d prefer someone from here. We could still look here but who knows what the chances of actually finding someone are.We don’t know that many people.
My father has said to do ishtikhara , not really getting anything. But I don’t think he will ever wholeheartedly accept this. For this reason I also think its selfish to go ahead with this, I dont think we’ll pursue this but I am still confused.
How are Indian Muslims different than Pakistani Muslims? Don’t they look the same, eat the same food and speak the same language. How much education does your father have and where is he from. Would your rishta be willing to elope?
Don’t let anyones bigotery decide your future. People need to stand up to him. If everyone submitted to bullies, life would be hell.