Hey guys, I have a situation that I would like to get some feedback on.
I have alot of clothes/shoes/accessories that I would like to sell because I would like the extra space and, not to mention, the extra cash, lol. most of these things were given to me as gifts and either they dont’ fit me or I don’t like them, while some were bought by me.
I brought up the idea of selling these things but a few people around me said that its a very cheap and petty thing to do, especially since alot of these were my jahez/bari outfits and that its very undignified to sell them.
The thing is, just a few months ago I gave many things away to friends. They knew these were my clothes that I didn’t like any more, and they didn’t mind (so its not like I re-gifted used things) so it worked out for both of us. I don’t think I’m being cheap at all but what do you think?
sell em, they are yours and it is your choice on what you do with them.
too bad they are desi otherwise you can put them for these used clothes consignments
I have to go drop off some of my old suits there again..the tax break on donating them is not worth is, selling on consignment gives back a pretty penny.
There's nothing wrong with getting rid of stuff you're not using.
Discreetly set up an account on ebay or put an advert on craigslist and get on with it. Just don't tell anybody else about it. In fact, that's a pretty good mantra to have with most things in your life...if people don't really need to know what's going on with you, don't tell them. Don't give them the opportunity to say stupid stuff or to gossip.
Actually its not my friends (though 1-2 of them may feel this way) but rather my husband and my parents who think like this. While I'm thinking in practical terms, husband is upset iwht me because I spent so much money on things I don't like any more (I didn't tell him that these were things his family got me), and my parents think its silly to go through so much trouble.
^ You should remind your hubby that your selling them not giving them out....so some money should come out of this...true some money might be lost but its better than having this stuff in your closet and never wearing any of it
I get what you mean. Really I do. I have so many gorgeous things from my own wedding that I truly love...but they sit in the closet and jewelry box because I don't have the opportunity to wear them. It seems a shame when there are so many less fortunate people out there who could use them.
But the problem is, if I get rid of them, it will hurt my husband and his family. My husband is a star and his family is equally awesome so they won't say anything to me, but it will hurt their feelings if I get rid of stuff that they put in so much effort in obtaining from me.
So this is one of those situations where even though it would be more practical to give it to someone who needs it, the right thing to do is not to do the practical thing and use what I have at every possible occasion.
So just my two cents...but I think you should just hang on to the stuff and avoid unpleasantness with the hubby and inlaws. Even if you get rid of the stuff with the best of intentions (e.g. giving it to someone who needs it, selling it so that you and your husband will have $ for something you actually need, etc.), it won't look good.
If hubby is really going to feel hurt about it...dont sell it and find a way to use or reinvent the things.
For me, I dont see how I can be expected to hold onto things for years that are just taking up closet space and will never see daylight. But then again...the whole emotional aspect of it...uff...log itni tension kyun lete hein?!
I don't see anything wrong. Just recently I gave away a lot of outfits, especially heavy kaam walay. Most of them happened to be gifts either the in-laws gave me or i got for myself...but the fact was they do not fit me after 2 kids, and probably won't fit me ever. I sent mostly untouched and some that were worn maybe once or twice to paki with my mom and asked her to give them out to whoever wanted them. The new outfits I told her to ask my cousins if they dont mind, and others just give to daughters of the miad or really whoever. At least they are being put to use. At 1st hubby was a little awkward, but really what is the benefit of them collecting dust in the closet for years, and mind you taking up space.
Now that I think about it, I SHOULD HAVE sold them on ebay or craigslist....i still have more to go....will try that
I used to think selling stuff was petty and cheap too. However, I think time are a-changing. It is you stuff and fasool wasteage is a bigger crime. I think I would rather be considered petty than an idiot.
Nothing wrong with it at all, it's pointless keeping things u don't particularly like or know u will never use.. also, I hate clutter and the thought of keeping/hoarding so much stuff just irritates me.. the women in my family don't tend to throw things away for the reasons already mentioned and they need 2/3 bedrooms just to store their clothes..
