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so, minah pa? Big deal. After slapping the woman she can say "Heh, I'm off to the embassy. Tschuss!".
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Ahhhh, got it, go to Holland and never come back - gotcha
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I agree with matsui - this guy is really a very big chutiya. I think he is one of those types who has married just to change his passports color - he is also a very suspicious type typical desi husband...my suggestion to her would be to leave this guy immediately and continue her education-- but there is an issue and it is the 1 yr old baby -
i am sure this guys thinking will never change so this girl should get a divorce and just get on with her life- she is too young and she cannot spend all of her life with this prick
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Nilu tell your friend to dump the guy, finish her education and you can raise her kid in the mean time. What does her parents have to say about this. DO they agree or is it another mamoo, chachas kid that is being setup over here. Unbelievable, I know pakis are working on foregin marriage policy may they can ban this stupid ritual altogether (needless to say that even Jews are catching on to matchmaking, it was in sunday magazine in NYT a few weeks ago). Ok I gtg.
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People are acting as if her having the baby was her adn her decision alone. This is a traditional desi travesty…girl too young, married off by her parents (Nilu, what do her parents do for a living..if I may ask) to get her off their hands to a pukka desi husband..whom she has met twice (once to marry and the othertime to nookie) and spoke to on the phone 3 times. She is rushed to susraal or ilk.. even in a foreign land she is not allowed to make friends..do things normal 18-20 yr olds do like have friends. She wants to get an education but finds out she is pregnant…alone in another country without her support system and channels she can seek advice for her misery she confides in her friend that her life prospects are bleak…not because of her child but because of the adults around her.
Humaari Khandaan ki biwian ghar mein rehti hain…aur bachche paal ti hain..:idioticdesimalevaala:
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^ What makes you think the baby was a decision at all? Nilu just said it wasn't planned. Not suprising considering both of them are pretty immature. Everyone in the picture is at fault, the guy for marrying such a young girl for his ticket to Holland, the girl for her lack of protest at such a marriage and the girl's parents for letting this crime occur.
I don't feel sorry for anyone involved and I don't believe in the oh the girl wants to live out her life and get an education crap. She should have thought about that before getting married. Unfortunately the child is the one that suffers.
My advice is, keep your distance from such a situation. Any interference can only have negative reprecussions.
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I am sorry because this post doesn't actually contribute to the thread in any real way but this just totally cracked me up. :D
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**Gudia: **If she slap her sis in law she will throw her out the house phir woh
kahaan jaingey? You will think she can go back home to Holland but what if her
parents come to know that she give her sis in law a bitchslap they also say to her
ur not welcome here.
**Homer & Verzion: **I can't say to her divorce ur hubby what kind of friend i am if
i say that to her. I think its better if she talk this out with her husband.
**Skhan: **Thought about what before she got married ?
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Nilu if your friend cant see the writing on the wall then she is dumb as a door knob. Thats all. I dont even think that you need to say anything she should know if she had a brain (what is she going to school for?). But since she cant all you have to do is mention other possibilities to her.
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Verzion if she divorce her hubby you dont know how her parents will react especially her dad, Even i dont know what her dad will say i think its also the fear that she can't leave her hubby coz what will her parents say and the other family members will say. You know, you have also think about that.
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^ It's a no win situation. whatever she does, she's screwed. I dont' think there's anything you could do about it nilu except just listen to her when she's upset..however i'd keep my distance..i wudn't want to get involved coz what if her husbadn is some violent jerk and triest o come after u for intefering?
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Sara516 Baji goodmorning. Its never a win win situation no matter how you look at it till you take matters in your own hands.
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Hi Sara.
Yea i listen to her problems and say many time's to her talk with her hubby about this.
And i do not get involved in this but feel very sorry for her coz she feels so screwd up.
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Its time for her to stand for herself, make her own decision, yes in the begginning it will be difficult, parents might not except her but eventually things would get better. The first step should be to out of that inlaws house. She can always ask for help from various government agencies and I am sure there will be ton's of them in UK.
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Yea could be LUsi im talkin to her right now on msn.
And she talked to her bro and her bro said to her you've to stay
with ur hubby. So i asked her do you wanna divorce ur hubby and she said no.
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BTW: Good news her bro said to her now she can come to Holland :D
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Nilu,
If he is saying that she is gonna start a relationship with someone else if she starts work or college, what does that tell you about his ghatiya, deeth thinking?
I suggest she should first ask her husband that if she doesnt work who will be getting him his visa?
Or will it be ok then because she is working to get him over to this very baad country?
I really feel for the poor gal, if she doesnt do something now, she has to put up with this for the rest of her life.
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Verzion if she divorce her hubby you dont know how her parents will react especially her dad, Even i dont know what her dad will say i think its also the fear that she can’t leave her hubby coz what will her parents say and the other family members will say.
Look, if its fear that’s holding her back, then there is no solution to the problem. There can’t be a solution when no one is willing to look into one. You’ve got plenty of good advice here. This girl has a legitimate legal case and the embassy can definitely help her out.
Before even trying anything, you’re just giving excuses to every suggestion given to you. Very typically desi, sadly. Either you go and give her this advice, or let her be miserable in her own situation.
You can lead a horse to the water, but can’t force it to drink.
skhan said he doesn’t feel sorry for the girl, because she should have thought about these things before saying yes to the marriage. He’s right. There is not such thing as others forcing you. You LET yourself be forced. She allowed her parents to dictate a wrong decision to her.
This is why one should be very wary of arranged marriages. I dont understand how people get married without TALKING and GETTING TO KNOW their future spouse. And I certainly can’t believe that people have the nerve to bring Islam into it, saying that arranged marriages are perfectly Islamic - yeah, well, I’m sure Islam WANTS women to be in these kinds of situations :k:
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^^ Her bro said to her that she have to go to school so she will go to school she told me.
Also i think its better if she do something ova there then sit at home the whole day
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Man, I dont get this. So now her brother says she will go to school, so she will go to school? What did her brother do? Talk to her husband? To her in-laws? So now her brother is the only one that can help her make a decision? Otherwise no one will listen to her?
Man you Holland desis are more messed up than desis in Pakistan.