is it okay to tell

a professor/boss/advisor he/she makes you nervous :hmmm:

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Why would you be nevous?

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^dont question my question :mad:

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yes. and if you feel nervous around a certain person in college, just dont meet that person alone. have a friend with you

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Acha ghussa tu mat ho. Well there could be many reasons you might be nervous. For example, if you have crush on your advisor/professor etc etc.

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^behuda baatein na kero :mad:

gussey pe gussa…strike 2!

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Ye tu larkyan kartin hain es tarahn. I mean why don't you just face up..this should filter out nervousness.

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behuda..since when..anything is possible in this world.

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why would you get nervous? do you have a crush on him/her?

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^xtron, please take care of him....

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Okaii lets not ruin her thread.

@Pepsi_ki_Botal agar mujhai mil jai tu—. Why don’t you give us the situation yo!

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what? its an genuine question?

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btw, i used to like bismarck. IRON FIST.

he was something...

i cant give the situation :( bus.

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In theory you should be able to have a frank conversation with someone who is in a position of authority relative to you and explain to them that they make you nervous, but life isn't that simple. Maybe you can say it without "blaiming" the other person so that it doesn't become a confrontational conversation - express ways to make the relationship less nerve-wracking and see what you yourself can do to make it better.

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Telling your boss (especially) that they make you nervous suggests a lack of composure and confidence....and that's not the sort of image you want to give...it's not exactly professional. Moreover, I've seen some jerk-like bosses out there.....I've encountered one....who will take advantage of such a confession.....as in it can give them an ego boost that might cause them to find ways to intimidate you, push you around, take unfair advantage of you/a situation.

Now with an advisor and a professor....there may be greater flexibility in telling them that they make you nervous....but as others have asked...why would you do so? If it's because you have a crush on them.........avoid it altogether....as that would create awkwardness. If it's because a prof has a strict/reserved demeanor or way of grading..........you cant really change that.....the more mature thing to do would be seek help with the assignment if that's what you're worried about. If it's an advisor.....I don't know why you'd want to seek advice from a person who makes you feel this way.......if it's a uni advisor.....I doubt that you'd have to interact with them often enough for it to be such a problem. Be careful with how you word things, as Sehrysh as suggested above. There's a way to say it in an accusatory way...and a way that's more general.

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Nope. That is revealing your weakness, and I tend not to reveal my weaknesses to anyone, unless that person is my mum, dad, siblings, or someone VERY VERY VERY close to me.

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:hmmm: makes sense

completely agree…and yes it’s the demeanor…or the persona they exude

again, true…hm.

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Yes, nothing wrong in telling the (ultimate) BOSS that HIS disobedience and the feeling that HE is always watching one, makes one nervous. HE loves listening to this humble confession, only in front of HIM.

The rest are microscopic creatures, who would scare us only when we don't get scared from the ultimate ONE.

p.s. Dictionary---------Boss: the one who makes decisions, exercises authority, dominates,...etc.

This is just the ideal case, of course doesn't mean that I have reached that level, but I do wish to, by the grace of the BOSS.

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^mods, please remove this off-topic post.

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Just do your assignments and submit them on time, seek clarification for things you don't understand. You'll have the professor for a semester and then you may not have them again....that said it's not worth it to create awkwardness. If their personality is more reserved...they can't change it...that's how they are...and you need to work around it. If the prof is saying/doing things that you find hurtful....then you can consider talking to them (without saying they make you nervous....use other words)...or consider speaking to the appropriate authority.