Re: Is it okay to have an affair if your spouse doesnt make you happy?
My dear Laddu . You decide to take a divorce or your decide to stay with him or you have an affair …whatever you do I won’t judge you ! But I will just give you one advise …STOP depending on others for your happiness. You expect happiness from you husband and you are not getting it so you are looking elsewhere for happiness. Why you need a man to make you happy ? You said you have children can’t you find happiness in them or take up a hobby or take up a job .
I am a single parent. I was not happy in my marriage from the very 1st day but I never ever thought about another man even now I don’t think about it rather I don’t want to have a man in my life. BUT I am happy alhamdolillah with whatever Allah has given me. If I can be happy with my imperfect life why can’t you ? Why can’t you dedicate your life to your children or to your work or to some other cause and drive peace and happiness from it ?
The day you stop depending upon others for happiness all your problems will start resolving. I know it’s easier said than done and it’s very difficult and against the human nature but you can atleast try.
Ignore your husband . Let him do whatever he wants to do. You can’t force anyone to love you. He will be answerable for his deeds. Leave everything on Allah and make dua. The best feeling in this world is to love your children unconditionally and make all efforts to make their lives better. If you have parents try to live for them too do their khidmat , love them , care for them …that will also bring happiness and peace to you.
Don’t do anything that you regret later in your life esp at the time you will take your last breath because then it would to be too late to do tauba and to undo all the wrong things you did. Think about it !